Best way to kill self-doubt every day

You feel you’re not good enough.

You doubt your capabilities.

You doubt whether your goals are too big.

You’re not alone.

Before achieving success, every single one of us doubt ourselves because none of us can predict the future.

Future is scary.

You don’t know what’s going to happen. It’s unpredictable.

Will you make it? Will you succeed?

Then doubt takes birth in your mind only to make things worse.

“The worst enemy to creativity is self-doubt.”
― Sylvia Plath

When doubt takes over your mind, it only multiplies if you nourish the thought.

When you spend your time doubting yourself, there’s no productive outcome. Here, you will only try to gather evidence of your failures. You will ignore all your progress and strengths.

Doubt is an imaginary concept. It only exists in your mind. It clouds your greatness and tries to stop you from reaching your full potential.

On the contrary, if you do the things you committed to do regardless of the doubt, the possibilities are endless. Ignore the dark voices inside your head and focus on your craft instead.

Here are few reasons you should continue even in the face of adversity or doubt:

  1. You will improve your craft by one percent.
  2. You might get lucky and your piece of craft may go viral.
  3. You may improve or bring light to ONE person’s life.

Keep working on your craft even if you’re mind is clouded with doubt or the uncertainty of future.

Don’t let failures amplify the darkness of self-doubt. They both work together and try to steal your dreams from you. Don’t let that happen.

“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will.”
― Suzy Kassem

Embrace failures as it will only make you better if you learn from it. Your capabilities can improve whereas failure is just an event.

It is up to you to take failure as a negative event or turn it into a positive experience.

To combat failure and doubt, choose discipline and love for your craft. Taking action is the best way to stop the negative chatter.

Trust that everything you’re doing is adding up to your greatness. No effort is ever wasted.

You know the reason why you started. Let that reason fuel you. Let your love for your craft fuel you.

Doubt is always going to be there. Take action anyways.

When in doubt, choose discipline over doubt.

Go. Take action.

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The difference between high performers and average people

Our society has an obsession with being normal. Instead of doing things differently and rising above being average, we tend to settle for average.

In this average world, we want to fit in the society so that we all can rationalize being average. Then we overuse stimulants like alcohol or drugs to compensate for living an average life.

I don’t have anything against people who are living an average life. You can be happy and live an average life at the same time.

For me, average life is boring.

I don’t need the rush of emotions from alcohol, drugs or junk food because I’m already high on life.

Every day, I have a mission. I have a daily checklist. I have rituals and habits. I have systems and goals. My values and priorities are clear to me. I have a structure in life but at the same time, sometimes I’m willing to break my rules to experience novelty.

High-performance life is not easy. It requires sacrifices, courage, and discipline. Most people are too weak to take bold decisions and make commitments. They don’t have the discipline to show up every day. They are too afraid to make sacrifices because they don’t want to ‘miss out’. Then, they complain about their misery. They complain about how unfortunate they are.

I quit living an average life and I know that I can never go back to it. It sucks and I can’t resist it.

Living a high-performance life comes with its own high and low times. But I own all of it. I take full responsibility for everything that happens in my life. Yes, there are things that I can’t control in life but those things can’t stop me because I have the ability to figure things out regardless of the outside circumstances.

High performers know what they want. They get it or they die trying. They crave obstacles and challenges because they know that will force them to grow.

Average people, on the other hand, sit on their butt and hope to win a lottery so that they can get easy money which requires no obstacle.

The other side of being a high performer is to know when to switch the off button. They take intentional breaks to recover from work and enjoy the other aspects of life.

I don’t live the way I live only to receive rewards of success. I do it for the process. The process is the reward in itself.

I am free from delusion of success. I am successful today.

 

What are your content consumption habits?

Whether we notice it or not, we are consuming content every single day.

The platforms for content consumption are increasing every year. As well as the amount of content produced is increasing. These are the most common platforms for content consumption:

  • TV
  • Newspaper
  • Books
  • Ebooks
  • Magazine
  • Blogs
  • YouTube/Vlogs
  • Email newsletters
  • Webinars
  • Seminars
  • Podcasts
  • Audiobooks
  • Facebook posts
  • Tweets
  • Instagram posts

The list will keep on expanding.

We love consumption. There is so much content out there that sometimes we get overwhelmed with what content we should consume and what we should ignore.

The problem is not the ever-expanding content. The problem is our consumption habits.

Like we consume energy through food and then we spend the energy through exercise to balance it out, we should treat content consumption the same way.

Consumption has to be balanced with creation. If we keep on consuming and not creating, we will get “mentally obese”.

Another skill we need to adapt is letting go of the fear of missing out. Life is too short to consume all the content out there. I know that you want to gather every piece of information and keep up to date with your favorite influencers or TV shows. But you have to let some content go and be okay with it.

For every piece of new content you consume, you have to say no to the other content out there. Then, you should make time for creation especially if you’re an entrepreneur.

Types of content

  1. Inspiration / Motivation
  2. Entertainment / Fun
  3. Educational / Instructional

Some content is the combination of two or three types. We need to consciously consume content which is most useful for us at the moment.

If you’ve dealt with a failure or if you’re feeling down then consume something motivational. It is also a good idea to consume such content time to time to stay motivated. The need depends on each person so only you can decide how regular you should consume such content.

If you’re feeling burnt out or if you want to celebrate after a long hustle, you can consume entertainment or funny content to rest your mind and soul. The break will expose your mind to new stimulus which will lead to creativity or recovery.

If you’re feeling lost or stuck then it’s best to consume educational content. You will find solutions to your problems and get unstuck. It’s also good to consume such content daily so that you expand your knowledge base and find new possibilities.

Conclusion

If you want to be successful, you have to value your time. Observe your content consumption habits and make changes accordingly. A lot of your consumption should be educational and then you can adjust the motivational and entertainment content according to your needs. Finally, balance content consumption with creation such as writing, recording, designing, etc.

So, what are your current consumption habits?

How to start doing what successful people do

We love to read about the habits, rituals, and routines of successful people. But only a few of us implement changes in our lives.

We all know we should eat healthily, move often, stay focused during work, set prioritize but not all of us do the things that we know we should be doing.

So why is there a gap between knowing what to do and actually doing it?

How do we fill the gap?

While there is no easy solution for that, there are a few things you can do to start doing what you know you should be doing.

1. Know your ‘why’

If you want to convert your extrinsic motivation into intrinsic motivation, know why you should be doing the thing you want to do.

If I tell you to meditate for 15 mins. every day because successful people are doing it, you might do it for a few days before you stop doing it. But if I tell you the science behind potential benefits on your mental and emotional well-being, you may never skip a day.

Although meditation might not directly influence your wealth, it can indirectly turn you into a person who is capable of living a rich life. When you know and feel the difference, you will be ready to struggle through the time when it’s hard to continue the habit.

So next time when you read about a habit of a successful person, make the effort to research and find out the potential benefits or drawbacks of action or inaction.

2. Change your beliefs

Changing beliefs is not easy. It takes constant reflection and self-awareness to notice the difference within you. If you believe that something is ‘kind of’ good for you, you’re not going to continue doing it.

Keep working to make your belief system stronger so that the chances of you quitting a habit will diminish.

If you need to, you can tell yourself imaginary story as to why you absolutely need to execute your newly adopted habits. Do it until you start noticing a difference and then your belief system will change.

3. Change your values

Once you start identifying a habit or activity as part of your identity, it is almost impossible to not do it. If you want to eat healthy, value healthy food. Change your identity into a person who eats healthy food.

If you want to eat healthy, value healthy food. Change your identity into a person who respects his/her body and eats healthy food.

It will take some time before you can truly change your values but if you keep on going back to your ‘why’ and reflect to change your beliefs, you will eventually reach a point where you will be a different person. The new habits will be part of who you are.

4. Track progress

We love seeing improvement. But we can only see it if we keep a record of our habits. If you track your habits and see progress, you will not want to lose the progress. As a result, you will stay motivated and strive for further improvement.

Take pride in the amount of progress you have made and set challenging goals. This way, you will never get bored as there will always be the next level to achieve.

Another benefit of measuring your behavior is that you will easily be able to identify mistakes and the barriers in your way.

5. Give yourself freedom

Many times, we follow rules that are told to us. Although it can be good to follow rules sometimes, it is not always the case. We all are different and we all need to add our own approach to do things.

If you’re always bound by rules and do whatever is told to you, you may start feeling demotivated. But if you give yourself permission to tweak some rules and do what works for you, then you will have a habit that is uniquely yours.

6. Learn to let go

When we go through a change, the hardest battle is between the person who you want to be and the person who you were yesterday.

In order to change, you have to let go of your past identity, beliefs, and habits. When you allow something to enter your life, something has to take its place.

You have to make sacrifices, prioritize what matters to you and then let go some of your current habits or beliefs even if you like them.

 

Pursue your dreams or die trying

You have only one life.

One life to experience all that you want to do. The regret of inactions is stronger than the regret of actions. In other words, the regret of failing at something is smaller than the regret of not even trying.

Many people who want to start their journey fear that they would lose time and effort on doing something that they may fail at. They would think that they can make better use of that time by watching TV, playing video games, partying, etc.

I’m going to use the word ‘entrepreneur’ for anyone who is taking an initiative or risk to follow their dreams while fighting mediocrity. With that said, let me tell you what you’re missing out on if you choose not to pursue your dreams.

1. The joy of giving

Entrepreneurs are problem solvers. We find a problem or a cause and then we try to solve it. The first step of any such journey should be to serve. Don’t get lost in creating your product or service. Start serving today and then shape your product/service accordingly. You will experience what it will be like to give and you will understand the value of what you’re doing.

2. Rollercoaster ride

You will fail. It will be hard. You will feel lost. But on the other side, you will experience what you might have never experienced before. When you start out, moments like – ‘first positive review’, ‘first earning from your business’ will prevail all the moments of despair.

3. New you

After facing your fears and overcoming challenges, you will be a different person. Your self-esteem will go high. Your standards will rise as your character will change. The lessons, personal growth, and experiences will make your journey worthwhile. Just make sure not to fall into the trap of ego.

4. Discovery

You will discover the possibilities that you might have never imagined before. You will meet with people that may become your lifelong friends. You will learn skills that you can’t imagine being skilled at today. Most importantly, you will find the answer to the question of – ‘What if?’

5. Success

Finally, if you persist, you will get the rewards. No matter what your personal goal is (freedom, fame or money), all the hard work and struggles will make the prize priceless. The level of satisfaction and happiness will be profound. You will live your dream life. You will contemplate what you would have ended up doing if it wasn’t for the journey that you chose to take.


In addition to knowing what you want, know what you don’t want. When you will have a strong ‘why’ to pursue your journey, you will do it anyway. All the noises telling you the downside of your journey will fade away.

Yes, it’s going to be hard. It’s going to be frustrating at times. You will be disappointed. But if you can’t afford to not know where the journey will take you, then listen to your heart and take the leap. You have one life and it’s too short to not pursue your dreams. Have the courage to follow your heart.

Go. Start now. Please.