How To Think Like Tim Ferriss To Live A Good Life

Who doesn’t know Tim Ferriss?

Maybe you do, maybe you don’t.

You may be a true fan of him. Maybe you’ve just heard of him. Or maybe you’ve never heard this name before.

In any case, here’s a quick introduction to get started.

Tim Ferriss is the host of his famous podcast — The Tim Ferriss Show where he interviews success people from different fields. He asks them great questions and breaks down their success into bite size chunks which we can take away into our lives.

He is also the author of the books — 4-hour Workweek, 4-hour Chef, 4-hour Body, Tools of Titans and Tribe of Mentors.

4-hour Workweek is about lifestyle design and location independence. 4-hour Chef is about learning smarter, and 4-hour Body is about hacking the body.

Tools of Titans and Tribe of Mentors have a different theme. They are about getting advice, tips, tools, tactics, routine or inspiration from successful people in different fields.

Tim Ferriss is a self-proclaimed “human guinea pig” which means he believes in self-experimentation to test out assumptions and find out what most people could never imagine.

He has inspired millions of people to pursue their dreams and become lifelong learners. He continues to grow as he teaches us to be healthy, wealthy and wise.

His mission is to create an army of thinkers who can become better than him. If the student becomes better than the master, the master becomes successful.

Two of his major guiding principles are:

  1. “Hard choices, easy life. Easy choices, hard life.” — Jerzy Gregorek.
  2. The quality of your life is determined by the quality of the questions you ask.

Therefore,

Hard Choices + Good Questions = Good Life

Making Hard Choices

What if making hard choices were easy? That’s a type of question he would ask himself.

So, let’s consider it.

Hard choices are not hard by nature. They look hard to us because of fear, uncertainty, doubt or lack of clarity.

The antidote is a simple exercise which he refers to as “Fear-setting”.

In the exercise, he asks us to take a sheet of paper and make three columns titled “Define”, “Prevent” and “Repair”.

In the first column, you list out every fear you have that stops you from living the life you want. In the next column, write everything you can do to prevent the situation from happening. In the last column, write everything you can do to mitigate the damage if the worst-case scenario came true.

On the next page, switch sides and write everything good that can come out from taking the risk.

The last step is the most important step of the exercise. On the third page, determine the cost of inaction. How would your life look like in the next months or years if you didn’t take the action?

Consider every aspect such as emotional, physical and financial when you think about the cost of inaction.

The purpose of the exercise is to take a microscopic view of the situation. Most people don’t make the hard choices because they are paralyzed by fear.

When we define fear and capture it on a piece of paper, it doesn’t look that intimidating anymore. Many times, the positives outweigh the negatives.

Courage comes from clarity. The exercise helps us to switch from the fear mindset to the possibility mindset.

Most of our thoughts are fear based:

What if I go broke?

What if I’m not good enough?

What if I miss the opportunity?

What if I lose my girlfriend or boyfriend?

What if I get rejected?

When you define your fears on a paper, you don’t dwell on them any longer. Now, your mind is free to think about your untapped capabilities and the new possibilities. You ask bigger questions:

What if I change the rules?

What if I develop a new skill?

What if there’s a better opportunity coming my way?

What if I’m meant to do something greater?

What if I just start?

Asking Good Questions

You are only limited by the questions you ask yourself. Poor quality questions give poor results. Good questions can change your life.

The purpose of asking good questions is not to get an answer every time. But, it’s to explore the possibilities and expand your imagination.

By asking good questions, you train your mind to think in the ways that others might not have considered before.

So how do you ask good questions, you may ask?

The answer — question assumptions and be specific if you can.

Tim questions the status quo and the norms that society assumes as rules to live by.

Most people work 9–5 jobs, hate their lives and wait for the retirement to enjoy their lives. But he read Vagabonding, questioned assumptions and created a guide for a regular person who is stuck in a traditional lifestyle. That book became The New York Times Bestseller — The 4-Hour Workweek.

Look everything with skepticism and be open-minded. As a bonus, you can add specificity to your questions. Being specific gives you the context and constraints which sparks creativity and helps you form a plan of action. It also helps to deconstruct the answer which may lead you to find alternative solutions.

Here are some questions he asked himself that changed Tim’s life with my remarks in the brackets:

  • What if I did the opposite (questioning assumption) for 48 hours? (being specific)
  • What would I do/have/be if I had $10 million (being specific)? What’s my real Target Monthly Income? (questioning assumption)
  • If I could only work 2 hours per week (being specific) on my business, what would I do?
  • What if I couldn’t pitch my product directly? (questioning assumption)
  • Do I need to make it back the way I lost it? (questioning assumption)
  • What if I could only subtract to solve problems? (questioning assumption)

Asking good questions is not an easy task. It comes with practice. To get better, increase the number of questions you ask yourself and identify how much you’re questioning assumptions or being specific.

Quantity brings quality. And to further improve the quality of your questions, reflect to make constant improvement.


Asking good questions is about thinking and making hard choices is about doing. Both are essential ingredients to live the life you want.

If you keep thinking, there will be no progress. And if you keep taking action without thinking, you’ll end up in the middle of nowhere.

Keep the cycle of ‘making hard choices’ and ‘asking good questions’ running.

Now, It’s your turn.

What hard choices will you make? It could be a big life decision or small daily actions.

What questions can you ask yourself that will make the biggest impact on your life?

Always be questioning.

Always be experimenting.

Always be learning.

Always be evolving.

Success is a result of daily actions…

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How To Dramatically Improve Your Life In 30 Minutes A Day

30 minutes.

30 x 7 = 210 minutes or 3.5 hours a week.

Even if you skip a day, you’ve got 3 hours in a week to change your life.

That’s a lot of time.

The problem is not the time; it’s the lack of intentions.

We have so many options, especially today.

Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat, WhatsApp — each app shows you stories of how people are spending their time.

Before you know it, there’s another story telling you what you’re missing out on.

There’s a constant battle of attention. Look at me. Buy this. Do that.

Humans are complex creatures. We don’t go after what we want. We go after what others want.

When we don’t get what others want; we hate, shame or blame our lives. We rarely take the time to set intentions in our lives. Instead, we chase what others go after.

You might have clicked on the article to find out what you should do in 30 minutes to change your life.

I can’t tell you that because I don’t know. But I can help you find out yourself what you must do in those 30 minutes that will change your life.

To discover what you need in life, examine your life and see what’s missing from these productive uses of time:

Working (creative, important)

Learning (reading, listening, watching or doing)

Playing or relaxing

Thinking or reflecting

Meditating or buffering (empty spaces)

Connecting (with right people)

Moving and eating (healthy foods)

Sleeping

Once you identify the number one thing missing from your life, use those 30 minutes to bring balance to your life.

  • If you don’t work on a creative project or hobby, start.
  • If you don’t learn something, start.
  • If you don’t already take out time to relax or play, start.
  • If you don’t reflect by journalling or thinking, start.
  • If you don’t meditate or don’t have empty spaces in life, start.
  • If you don’t connect with like-minded people, start.
  • If you don’t move your body or make healthy meals for yourself, start.
  • If you get less than 7 hours of sleep, add 30 minutes to your sleep.

What if you have many things missing from your life?

If that’s the case, cut out excess from your life. Excess or lack of any of the above uses of time may not be good.

Find out what you’re doing too much of and cut some time out of it. There’s always enough hours in the day. It’s a matter of setting your priorities and intentions straight.

What if you still don’t have enough time?

I’ve got a solution for that too.

You can further divide your 3 hours into 1.5 hours and 1.5 hours to add two things in your life. If you want to add 3 things, use 1 hour a week for each activity.

The breakdown depends on your situation and circumstances. Customize how you want to schedule those 30 minutes. Remember, you also have a weekend when you can give more time.

Another solution is to combine activities to kill two (or three) birds with one stone. For example, you can play, move and connect at the same time if you workout with a buddy and turn it into play.

Learn to manage and save your energy for your 30 minutes. Give your full focus and attention no matter what you do. Whether it is deep work, deep learning, deep relaxation, deep thinking, deep meditation, deep connection, deep sleep or a challenging workout.

The best times to carve out your 30 minutes are at the start or the end of the day. Use whatever time suits your lifestyle. But make sure those 30 minutes are distractions free.

When you start something, you will not always love it from the beginning. Sometimes, it takes time for you to realize the importance of an activity. Small actions every day can transform your life.

When you look back at your life, you can only thank yourself for each second of those 30 minutes a day.

So, how are you going to spend your golden 30 minutes?

Success is a result of daily actions…

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The Anatomy Of Transformations — Renew Yourself For Better Life

I’m sure you’ve seen people who have radically changed their life for the better in a matter of months or years.

The simplest example is the transformation pictures we see on the front page of most health and fitness products.

We wonder — How did that person change so fast? Did they take some sort of magic pill?

Then, we appreciate their dedication and move on with our normal lives.

Imagine if you could make that level of transformation every few months or years in your life.

I’m not just talking about the physical looks. I’m speaking of the internal character or attitude, succeeding in different aspects, learning new things, etc.

If you constantly transform yourself, you will live many epic lives in one body. It’s almost as if you will be reborn and keep creating better versions of yourself.

Most people will never experience such transformations in their lives. They will stay in the reactive mode and let life happen to them. They will stay the same all their life.

But you can change because change is good when it’s intentionally used to improve yourself.

Let’s talk about each stage of a transformation.

Stage 1: The Spark

It’s when it hits you — I (seriously) need to change.

For some, the source of the spark is fear while for others, it’s inspiration. For example, looking at your blood profile and deciding to change your lifestyle is fear based. Looking at your heroes and deciding to be like them is inspiration based.

Inspiration-based spark
Fear-based spark

Both are powerful enough to create initial momentum in your life. But none of them are strong enough to keep the momentum running for transformable change.

Sometimes, the spark works against us when we try to skip the journey and want fast results. We start with level 10 habits instead of level 1 because of the initial rush of motivation.

In such cases, we soon burnout and go back to our past lives. To avoid these situations, practice patience. Use the spark to get started but don’t use it to try to skip the process of transformation.

Stage 2: Daily Actions

The spark is the sexy part. It puts you in a peak state and you get a rush of motivation right away.

The small daily actions are the difficult pieces of the puzzle. At first, the spark helps you to do the daily actions. But soon, the spark fades away.

When the spark is gone, the daily actions may feel like hell. At this stage, you can use your willpower reserves.

Keep willpower and energy saved in your reserves for the daily actions you need to create the change in your life. Don’t waste your decision-making power on other useless activities so you can use it later when you need it the most.

But don’t worry, you only need willpower for few days until you reach the next stages. So, keep going even when you don’t feel like it.

Use reminders and triggers to stay on track. But don’t just remind yourself of the actions you must take. Keep reminding yourself of the deep reason you’re doing what you’re doing.

Set the stakes high by giving consequences to your actions using reward or punishment rules. Adjust the difficulty of the tasks if you have to but don’t quit at this point. A beautiful transformation is coming your way.

Stage 3: Environment Shift

This is the stage where most people quit and it’s not their fault. They don’t even know why they fail. They blame themselves for not being strong enough but in reality, they only needed a few tweaks to make it easier for them to sustain new behaviors.

First, you must change your environment. Your environment should support your growth and not derail you from the daily actions.

Make it harder for yourself to perform the destructive tasks. Take willpower out of the equation by crossing out your options. For example, if we had the choice between watching Netflix or practicing a new skill, we’d probably choose Netflix because it’s easy and comforting.

There is nothing wrong with watching Netflix but it should not come in the way of your transformation. Your downtime should be intentional and not based on impulse based actions.

To make sure you watch Netflix only when you intend to, log out from the website every time you’re done watching. Keep it blocked (using browser extensions) during the times of performing your daily actions.

In the same way, you can make it easier for yourself to do the new task. Let’s say you want to learn to play an instrument. Keep it in the sight and within your reach. Don’t pack it every time you’re done playing it. This way, you can use any free time to practice for a few minutes.

Next, comes your social environment. People around you change the way you think and live. If the people you see in your life don’t support you, there are high chances of you falling back to your past lifestyle.

Raise the standards of your social environment by keeping strict policy of who you spend your time with. Consciously or unconsciously, they impact your mind in positive or negative ways. If you have to spend time with such people for some reasons, then be cautious of their presence. Try not to let them affect you as much.

It’s a good idea to join a community of like-minded people who are following a similar journey as you. You will get support and hear other’s struggles so you can support them as well. When you get to discuss and express yourself, you feel connected and stay focused to keep going through the change.

The last thing you need to set your environment for success is accountability. Some require personal accountability while others may need social accountability.

Track your behavior and use a journal to do daily and weekly reflections for personal accountability. Or you can keep yourself accountable by sharing your progress with a group or a coach. But either way, you must take full responsibility of your transformation.

Stage 4: Cognitive Dissonance

According to Wikipedia, cognitive dissonance is the mental discomfort (psychological stress) experienced by a person who simultaneously holds two or more contradictory beliefs, ideas, or values.

When you change your identity, you perform your daily actions effortlessly because that’s part of who you are. It’s not about who you want to be any longer. You are already that person and all you’re doing is performing your duty.

If you identify yourself as a healthy person, you will not do the things an unhealthy person does. This is the difference between people who “don’t” do certain activities and people who “can’t” do them.

When you do activities that are not aligned with your identity, beliefs or values; you experience cognitive dissonance. You feel mental discomfort because that’s not what you do.

Changing beliefs and values takes some time. To accelerate the process of change, you can feed your mind with the knowledge you need that supports your values. Get inspiration from top people in the field of your new identity.

Use your leisure time or empty time to read books, watch courses, listen to audiobooks or podcasts related to your desired change in your identity.

Stage 5: Change Of Will

The last stage of transformation is the change of your will. At this stage, you change so much that you no longer need to use willpower to make right decisions. Now, you crave the habits you used to procrastinate on.

You invest so much of your time, effort and energy that going back to your previous lifestyle is not an option anymore. Now, your progress is too precious for you to lose. It’s one of the best use of the behavioral economics theory ‘loss aversion’.

You become intrinsically motivated. You transform. People notice the difference in you. (Warning: You may even get bad dreams of you engaging in destructive past behaviors)

The great philosopher, Aristotle says that an individual’s character development ranges on a spectrum of worst to better:

  1. Vicious character: Taking pleasure in acting wrongly.
  2. Incontinent character: Acting wrongly out of weakness.
  3. Continent character: Acting rightly using willpower. (inclined to act wrongly)
  4. Virtuous character: Acting rightly because of strong will.

When you reach the virtuous character in your transformation, you know the life cycle of a transformation is complete.

And what happens next?

You go back to stage 1 (the spark), set (beyond SMART) goals, and prepare yourself for another transformation.

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Life Out Of Balance? Here’s What You Need To Create An Epic Life.

I used to play all the time.

In fact, I was addicted to playing. All I thought and talked about was about playing.

Before video games entered my life, I was only drawn to outdoor and indoor games.

When I started playing video games, nothing was better than the feeling of make-believe and adventure.

I was hooked.

So much so that I could not study during my school time. At school, I would talk about video games with my friends. At home, I would play video games most of the time and when I tried to study, I could not focus because all I could think about was video games.

I did not realize how much addicted I was. It was not only destroying my academic life; it was also influencing my social life.

A few years later, when it was time for college, I enrolled in a game design course because games had become my passion.

As college started, I found the study of games fascinating. I could finally take an interest in the studies.

But as the study of games became my work, I stopped playing.

Then, I was hooked on learning.

Even when I played games, I played them to study them. I rarely played games for leisure.

All my focus was gaining as much knowledge as possible.

Later, I realized that learning and working are two different things. To convert knowledge into wisdom, learning has to be balanced with implementation.

Being a content consumer helped my life so much until I needed to take responsibility for my life. I had to practice skills instead of endlessly learning about them.

Then, there was a time in my life when I stopped playing and learning because I had too many items on my to-do list. I thought I was not ‘productive’ enough.

I’ve experienced extreme play, extreme learning, and extreme work. Like my past self, most people spend their lives in either of the three states.

Kids are given full freedom to play. Young people are told to study until they find a job and adults are supposed to work until retirement.

This system may have worked in the past but it’s not sustainable anymore.

Today, an average person is deprived of play, curiosity, and creativity.

Lack of play leads to stress and depression. Lack of curiosity leads to plateau and mediocrity. Lack of creativity leads to addictions and dissatisfaction.

If you’re reading this, chances are that you want more from life. You want to live a good life filled with growth and peace.

The Importance Of Play

“The opposite of play isn’t work. It’s depression.” — Jane McGonigal

Kids play with zero worries in mind.

As we become adults, play is replaced by work. You learn that you need to make money. You need to become successful. You need to take responsibilities.

All that is true. But, it does not mean the end of play.

Play is essential. Play brings fun to life. It eliminates negative thoughts, stress, and anxiety. It improves relationships. It keeps you young and creative.

So many adults these days are play deprived. They burn out because of workaholism. They don’t take time to rest their mind and recharge their soul.

We are only humans and we need spaces of unproductive times in our life. Staying ‘on’ all the time is a recipe for disaster. It leads to low willpower and motivation when we need it the most.

However, if you schedule spaces of unproductive or play time, you will come back disciplined and focused when you need it during the time of work. 

Life is not all about accomplishing big goals. Learn from children. They show us how being happy looks like.

So, take some time out and play for a while.

The Importance Of Learning

“Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.” — Mahatma Gandhi

The old times are gone.

Before, you could stick to one job without the fear of losing it if you kept doing average work.

Today, the world is changing at the fastest rate than ever before. The theory of evolution says that we need to adapt to the changes in order to survive.

So, you must stay up to date with the new tools and become a student over and over again.

Become a beginner and follow the pursuit of lifelong learning to excel at work and life.

Lifelong learning keeps your brain active and curious. It helps you to learn new skills or improve your current skillsets. It can take your personal and professional life to the next level.

Learning once, twice or thrice is not enough.

I don’t know about you but I don’t remember 95% of what was taught to me in school.

Learning happens when repetition happens. We can’t expect to see results if we keep consuming content without repeated practice or learning.

Our subconscious takes time before it can digest information.

Create short summaries or notes when you learn something and use them to revisit the main concepts. Also, you can consume the work of other people on the same topic to get new and fresh perspective.

The Importance Of (Creative) Work

“Your work is to discover your work, and then with all your heart, to give yourself to it.” — Buddha

If you want to make a living by doing something you love, you must become a creator. And if you love your work, it can be the source of fulfilment in life.

But if we don’t let creative habits be the source of dopamine production in our brains, we can become addicted to unhealthy habits.

It has become so easy to consume drugs, smoke, alcohol, junk food, porn, etc. It leads people to use addictions to produce dopamine in their brain whenever they want. And then, they need more of the same behavior to produce the same level of dopamine.

To escape the addiction cycle, learn to express and become a creator.

Creating and expressing are the best things you can do to serve your audience and your soul.

When you do creative work, you don’t need external motivation, apps or tactics to stay on track. You do the work because that’s your home.


Creating crappy content is easy. But masterpieces are the result of play, learning, and devoted work.

My best work comes out when there’s a balance between play, learning, and work in my life.

If I skip one of the three, my life falls out of balance. At the same time, I make sure I don’t overindulge in any of the three.

What’s one thing that is lagging in your life? Or are you overindulging?

I’m lacking some play in my life and I’m probably consuming more content than I need to create balance in my life.

What about you?

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No obstacle can stop you from reaching your goals once you realize this

About a year ago, I could never guess that I would be learning about entrepreneurship today.

The concept of entrepreneurship was interesting to me but I never thought it would become something I love.

When I learned about location independence and lifestyle entrepreneurship, I was instantly fascinated by the idea of living a free life.

From then on, I made a decision to set up my own online brand or business so that I can live that lifestyle.

After few months of hustling and learning about the world of online business, I was overwhelmed.

My batteries were drained as I was doing all of this on the side while doing my post-graduate studies.

Since then, I have faced many obstacles and failures. I got frustrated when things didn’t go as I wanted them to go. But now, I’m okay with all that. I am not emotionally triggered by the ups and downs of the journey.

The biggest realization I had was that hard work was not enough. My dream was strong but hard work alone won’t get me there.

In order to turn my dream into reality, I had to learn to promote myself. I had to learn to express myself. I had to learn to connect with like-minded people. I had to learn to say no.

I’m still learning all of that but I never thought I will be doing that a year ago. But because I want to reach my vision so bad, I learned to love all the things that can help me reach my goals.

I never thought I would be learning about digital marketing. But today, I’m not only learning it because I have to, but I’ve started to like it because I know how it will help me live my dream.

So, no matter what your goal is, figure out the obstacles or skillsets that will help you achieve your goal. Start working on them and eventually you’ll start enjoying it if your desire to reach your goals is strong enough.

For example, if your desire to lose fat/build muscles/be fit is strong enough, you will learn to love working out. You will stop looking for excuses for not showing up for your workouts. In fact, you will start to sneak in exercise on your busy days because you know what it takes to reach your goals. You will stop craving foods that don’t support your goals.

In the same way, entrepreneurship is not easy. It requires multiple skills. You don’t have to become number one in all of them. But you have to invest your time to develop those skills just enough to reach your goals.

If you don’t commit, you’ll try to dodge those obstacles and ignore the skillsets required to reach your goals.

But once you commit, you will figure things out. You will crush all the obstacles and become a master of the required skillsets.

Have you made the commitment? Comment below what commitment you’ve made and what skillset(s) you still need to develop in order to reach your goals.

Master your time with this simple exercise

“How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives.” –  Annie Dillard

Most of us spend our day without any conscious effort to analyze how we spend our days.

A few years ago, I was living my life the same way. I had no control over time so I was either waiting for the time to pass by or I was doing urgent work in survival mode.

If we don’t take control of our time, we either get addicted to a few activities while avoiding important activities in our lives. Or we spend our time on meaningless activities which are neither productive nor enjoyable for us. For example, scrolling through social media for too long.

Every minute counts. Time does not stop for anybody. The goal of being aware of our time is not to add additional stress in our life but to consciously spend our time in a way that will make our life better.

There’s no one size fits all approach to time management. Some of us may prefer to organize our calendar while some of us may create personalized systems for managing time.

Personally, I like to give myself some freedom as I’ve tried keeping a timetable in the past and I don’t find it realistic or enjoyable few days after following it. Moreover, I feel guilty if I miss something or if unplanned events occur in life.

I have a dedicated time for creating and learning which I usually do in morning and in the night. There is no specific time block dedicated to the tasks. I can spend the 3 hours of work from 8am – 11am, 9am – 12pm or 10am – 1pm.

Similarly, many people like to follow Pomodoro technique for doing tasks. But for me, I like to spend longer time on tasks without interruption. The duration of time block depends on the tasks but I usually get up and take breaks when I feel like it.

The goal is to find the approach that works for you. You don’t have to follow all the rules. Know the rules and then tweak or even break the rules according to what you find is the best for you.

Here’s an exercise for you…

Write down all the activities you do and the time you spend on those activities in an average day. Then answer the following questions:

  1. What tasks are the most important to me?
  2. Am I only doing urgent tasks or am I making sure to dedicate some time to important tasks that matter to me?
  3. What tasks require the most amount of time? Is it worth putting so many hours on it?
  4. What can I cut down, remove or delegate from my life?
  5. What is missing from my life that I can add which will make me or my life better?
  6. What experiments can I do with my regular schedule? What if I do the opposite?
  7. What tasks do I really enjoy doing?
  8. Am I using my time to invest in future?
  9. When do I feel most energetic to work? Am I using that time to work on important things?
  10. Am I making sure to spend time on my health, relationships, and recovery?

Using the above questions, you will become more aware of the time you spend in a day and hopefully, you’ll spend your time wisely. Keep re-doing the exercise after every few months to get back on track and see the bigger picture.

Life Design for Introverts

I don’t know about you but I love being an introvert.

If you’re an introvert and you’re interested in making the best out of your life then read on. This post is for you.

Before diving in, let’s make it clear who an introvert is. Introversion is a personality trait in which a person recharges by spending time alone. The level of introversion various among different people. It can also change as we age or change.

Being an introvert is not easy. It is especially hard around many extroverts who don’t understand your nature. They might feel uncomfortable if they think that you’re rejecting them. But in reality, introverts need their alone time to recharge. Introverts can’t stay social for a long time.

Being an introvert myself, here are my top tips on how you can design your life:

1. Schedule ‘me’ time

It is necessary that you schedule alone time with yourself. This is the time when you’ll be able to recharge your batteries and go through the day full of energy.

While extroverts spend their leisure time by socializing, you prefer alone time for leisure. So, don’t feel obliged to do what others are doing. Spend your leisure time your own way.

Alone time can come in different forms such as:

  • Taking a walk
  • Listening to music/podcast/audiobook
  • Working out
  • Meditating
  • Journaling
  • Writing
  • Reading
  • Cooking
  • Eating
  • Learning skills
  • Doing a hobby
  • Taking a shower
  • Cleaning / Organizing / Planning
  • Browsing internet / Watching TV
  • Traveling

You can do many of these activities with other people as well like walking, cooking, eating, watching TV, traveling, etc. But according to your energy levels, you can choose to do the activities alone for recharging.

2. Socialize on purpose

As introverts crave out alone time, it can be easy for them to skip the social part altogether. It’s a good idea to take out some time to socialize so that you form relationships and develop your social skills.

Don’t be afraid to make small talks. Even though you don’t like small talks, you can use it to practice your emotional intelligence and people skills. Just smile, say hello, ask about the other person, be interested, listen and open up.

Social connection is necessary for improved quality of life. Good relationships and being part of a community are an important part of life design. Don’t skip it.

3. Know your energy

If you don’t want to burn yourself out, then you need to know your energy limits. Avoid committing to events that you don’t want to go to. Limit your time at social gatherings.

If you’re out of your energy reserves in a social setting, then it’s best to take a break by going to the washroom or any other quiet place to recharge for a few minutes. If you don’t do it, you will feel drained and people will feel the low energy around you.

4. Have friends who understand you

Let your friends know your nature. They will understand and respect your privacy without hard feelings. If you don’t communicate this, they might think that you’re being a jerk by ignoring them.

If you can, make friends with some introverted people so that you can understand each other. But it is also good to have friends who are extroverted. It will add variety to your social circle and add contrast to your personality.

5. Choose a career that suits you

You like to work in a distraction free, isolated environment. You don’t like to communicate too often while working. So, instead of choosing jobs that require constant interaction with a lot of people, choose jobs that charge you up.

If you let your coworkers know about your preferences, they will understand your style of working and they won’t make assumptions. Misunderstandings between coworkers can lead to bad results so make sure to be open about your personality and respect each other’s preference.

6. Escape the personality trap

Being an introvert is a personality trait. While it is true that the personality trait is part of who we are, it does not mean that we can’t take characteristics from other personality traits.

You can anytime choose to improve your social skills and be a selective introvert. Yes, it will take some time and practice but if you want, you can learn the skills that extroverts can easily do.

So stop labeling yourself and become a slave to your personality. Choose what you want to work on and start working on it. Your personality will adapt.

7. Embrace your nature

Congratulations! You’re an introvert. You can enjoy being alone, you can reflect on your thoughts well, you don’t need too much dopamine to feel good.

Be thankful for your personality and embrace who you are. Enjoy what you truly like doing without the fear of missing out.

Be awesome. Be you.