Protect Your Big Life Vision From The Drama Of Life By Using These 3 Shields

“Drama, combat, terror, numbness, and subservience — every day these things wipe out your sacred principles, whenever your mind entertains them uncritically or lets them slip in.” — Marcus Aurelius

You have one life.

If you don’t protect it, you will end up hating your life and resenting other people for your circumstances.

Most people seek excuses to hide from the work that needs to be done.

Instead of doing the work, they seek drama.

You can either put your focus on everyday drama or on your future vision.

Before protecting your vision, you must define it to set a direction. Lack of direction leads to lack of clarity which gives birth to inaction.

Once you define your vision, you must protect it or your mind will be occupied with stuff that is unimportant.

The mind constantly seeks thoughts to think, challenges to face and problems to solve. If you don’t set an intention, it will make up its own challenges and problems. Hence, you will run on autopilot with useless thoughts occupying your mind.

SHIELD #1: Environment

To protect your vision, you first have to optimize your environment for growth.

Eliminate the negative people, stuff or distractions that bring you down. Sometimes, it’s hard to say goodbye but if you want to grow, you have to let go.

As you remove the clutter from your life, add things that will help you reach your vision. Find growth-oriented people and invest in the education or tools you need to succeed.

Your mind is precious. You must set up your environment to bring quality thoughts in your mind.

As long as your mind is occupied with useless drama or other people’s agendas, you will keep finding reasons to hide from your daily grind.

Treat your attention as a valuable resource. Don’t waste it on the news, notifications, people or events that are not worth your attention.

Brainwash your mind by reading books and articles. Listen to audiobooks and podcasts while performing mundane tasks.

Set boundaries. Build habits. Perform morning and evening routines. Ruthlessly say no to the things that are not important or exciting for you.

Don’t be available to everyone all the time. Go in a cave and do the work that must be done. No one else cares about your priorities.

“Surround yourself with people that reflect who you want to be and how you want to feel. Energies are contagious.” — Rachel Wolchin

SHIELD #2: Wellbeing

When your laptop or mobile runs out of battery, what do you do? You can’t force it to perform without recharging it.

In the same way, you need to treat your wellbeing like a baby.

Let’s face it. If you’re in pain or feeling sick, how could you possibly look beyond the present drama in life?

I’m not saying that you should not focus on your health during rough times. But most people don’t take care of themselves until they face a health condition.

So don’t wait for the diseases to come your way. Prevent poor health if you are serious about working on your vision.

Your mental and physical health are interconnected.

Your food, sleep, and physical movement determines how your brain functions throughout the day.

Feed yourself highly nutritious foods. Get quality sleep for 7–9 hours. Train your body or at least move throughout the day to optimize yourself for high performance at work.

Your mind and body are tools for reaching your full potential.

“To keep the body in good health is a duty, otherwise we shall not be able to keep our mind strong and clear.” — Buddha

SHIELD #3: Philosophy

Your reality is made in your mind.

Even after protecting your environment or taking care of yourself, you will often face drama in your life.

This is where the third shield comes in — your philosophy.

How do you react to stress? What do you do during the time of adversity?

If you ask most people, they panic or get depressed.

I myself get frustrated when things don’t go the way I want them to go. I hate it when useless drama in the present clouds my vision for future.

But then I have to remind myself — What can I do about it? If the answer is nothing, stop worrying. If the answer is something, do everything to solve that problem.

Life is unfair. But life is also a gift. Learning to shift perspective is the key to realize the beauty of life.

Conditioning your mind to act calmly and think clearly during the time of crisis is a skill that takes time to develop.

When life throws drama at you, receive it. Then, manage your thoughts and feelings with tools like — meditation, mindfulness, journaling, gratitude, and kindness.

“You have power over your mind — not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.”
― Marcus Aurelius


Setting your own priorities and working on your vision may sound selfish. But if you want to do a greater good, you have to put yourself first.

As they say in the airplanes, put on your own mask before helping anyone else.

Be selflessly selfish to make the world a better place.

Use your environment, wellbeing, and philosophy as the three shields to protect your vision.

Now go. Make it happen.

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How I dealt with burnout and felt alive again in just one day

I woke up late. Very late.

I was stressed. My cortisol level was high. I had work to do early morning.

I pulled out my journal. I quickly wrote about the things I was grateful for, my focus for the day and an affirmation.

I sat down to work. But something didn’t feel right.

I was feeling overwhelmed. I was exhausted due to work and some people in my life. I felt it was time to hit the pause button.

So, I did it. I dumped all the plans for the day. I postponed my to-dos to other days, and I plugged off from work.

I decided to take a super tiny vacation.

I call it as “Solitude Holiday”.

For the full day, I spent time by myself.

It was the day of rehabilitation and rejuvenation.

I got up and went outside. On a normal day, I would listen to a podcast or audio while walking. But this time, I engaged all my senses and went on a walk.

I noticed the small things I would take for granted. I noticed the trees shedding off its old leaves, the chirping of the birds, the carefree playfulness of a child, and the sunshine hitting my eyes and skin.

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I came home and instead of weight training, I did a stretching session while listening to podcasts.

I made myself tea and paid attention to my thoughts.

I decided to think one thought at a time. It’s hard to do so in the world of internet and social media where we switch from thought to thought so easily. Every notification, social media page, headline, discount coupon and what not, make us quickly shift our attention.

I actively meditated and observed my thoughts without judgment. I noticed that most of my thoughts were useless. And that’s okay.

It becomes a problem when we give a useless thought the attention it does not deserve. Such thoughts try to fool our mind and pretend to be important but they’re not.

Then, I made myself a nutritious breakfast after fasting for twenty hours. After eating, I did some digital declutter, watched informative videos and read for a while.

In the evening, I watched some comedy videos and a nature documentary before going to the final part of my day.

While listening to relaxing music, I did a value and direction check in my journal. I checked if I was living a life true to myself. I checked if I was actively creating my future.

With that, I finished the day and went to bed under a warm and cozy blanket. I smiled, felt grateful and drifted off to sleep.

The next day, I was fully recharged. The cycle of creating, serving, learning, reflecting and recovering was back on.


So often we forget to hit the pause button. If you want to consciously design your life in the right direction, you have to listen to your mind and body.

For me, “Solitude holiday” works wonderfully. Every vacation does not have to be weeks or months long. Find out what works for you and make it happen when you need it.

When you feel out of focus or out of sync with life, hit the pause button. You’ll come back stronger and smarter.

“People seek retreats for themselves in the country, by the sea, or in the mountains. You are very much in the habit of yearning for those same things. But this is entirely the trait of a base person, when you can, at any moment, find such a retreat in yourself. For nowhere can you find a more peaceful and less busy retreat than in your own soul — especially if on close inspection it is filled with ease, which I say is nothing more than being well-ordered. Treat yourself often to this retreat and be renewed.” — Marcus Aurelius, Meditations.

Best way to kill self-doubt every day

You feel you’re not good enough.

You doubt your capabilities.

You doubt whether your goals are too big.

You’re not alone.

Before achieving success, every single one of us doubt ourselves because none of us can predict the future.

Future is scary.

You don’t know what’s going to happen. It’s unpredictable.

Will you make it? Will you succeed?

Then doubt takes birth in your mind only to make things worse.

“The worst enemy to creativity is self-doubt.”
― Sylvia Plath

When doubt takes over your mind, it only multiplies if you nourish the thought.

When you spend your time doubting yourself, there’s no productive outcome. Here, you will only try to gather evidence of your failures. You will ignore all your progress and strengths.

Doubt is an imaginary concept. It only exists in your mind. It clouds your greatness and tries to stop you from reaching your full potential.

On the contrary, if you do the things you committed to do regardless of the doubt, the possibilities are endless. Ignore the dark voices inside your head and focus on your craft instead.

Here are few reasons you should continue even in the face of adversity or doubt:

  1. You will improve your craft by one percent.
  2. You might get lucky and your piece of craft may go viral.
  3. You may improve or bring light to ONE person’s life.

Keep working on your craft even if you’re mind is clouded with doubt or the uncertainty of future.

Don’t let failures amplify the darkness of self-doubt. They both work together and try to steal your dreams from you. Don’t let that happen.

“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will.”
― Suzy Kassem

Embrace failures as it will only make you better if you learn from it. Your capabilities can improve whereas failure is just an event.

It is up to you to take failure as a negative event or turn it into a positive experience.

To combat failure and doubt, choose discipline and love for your craft. Taking action is the best way to stop the negative chatter.

Trust that everything you’re doing is adding up to your greatness. No effort is ever wasted.

You know the reason why you started. Let that reason fuel you. Let your love for your craft fuel you.

Doubt is always going to be there. Take action anyways.

When in doubt, choose discipline over doubt.

Go. Take action.

“Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.” — Dale Carnegie

No obstacle can stop you from reaching your goals once you realize this

About a year ago, I could never guess that I would be learning about entrepreneurship today.

The concept of entrepreneurship was interesting to me but I never thought it would become something I love.

When I learned about location independence and lifestyle entrepreneurship, I was instantly fascinated by the idea of living a free life.

From then on, I made a decision to set up my own online brand or business so that I can live that lifestyle.

After few months of hustling and learning about the world of online business, I was overwhelmed.

My batteries were drained as I was doing all of this on the side while doing my post-graduate studies.

Since then, I have faced many obstacles and failures. I got frustrated when things didn’t go as I wanted them to go. But now, I’m okay with all that. I am not emotionally triggered by the ups and downs of the journey.

The biggest realization I had was that hard work was not enough. My dream was strong but hard work alone won’t get me there.

In order to turn my dream into reality, I had to learn to promote myself. I had to learn to express myself. I had to learn to connect with like-minded people. I had to learn to say no.

I’m still learning all of that but I never thought I will be doing that a year ago. But because I want to reach my vision so bad, I learned to love all the things that can help me reach my goals.

I never thought I would be learning about digital marketing. But today, I’m not only learning it because I have to, but I’ve started to like it because I know how it will help me live my dream.

So, no matter what your goal is, figure out the obstacles or skillsets that will help you achieve your goal. Start working on them and eventually you’ll start enjoying it if your desire to reach your goals is strong enough.

For example, if your desire to lose fat/build muscles/be fit is strong enough, you will learn to love working out. You will stop looking for excuses for not showing up for your workouts. In fact, you will start to sneak in exercise on your busy days because you know what it takes to reach your goals. You will stop craving foods that don’t support your goals.

In the same way, entrepreneurship is not easy. It requires multiple skills. You don’t have to become number one in all of them. But you have to invest your time to develop those skills just enough to reach your goals.

If you don’t commit, you’ll try to dodge those obstacles and ignore the skillsets required to reach your goals.

But once you commit, you will figure things out. You will crush all the obstacles and become a master of the required skillsets.

Have you made the commitment? Comment below what commitment you’ve made and what skillset(s) you still need to develop in order to reach your goals.

The difference between high performers and average people

Our society has an obsession with being normal. Instead of doing things differently and rising above being average, we tend to settle for average.

In this average world, we want to fit in the society so that we all can rationalize being average. Then we overuse stimulants like alcohol or drugs to compensate for living an average life.

I don’t have anything against people who are living an average life. You can be happy and live an average life at the same time.

For me, average life is boring.

I don’t need the rush of emotions from alcohol, drugs or junk food because I’m already high on life.

Every day, I have a mission. I have a daily checklist. I have rituals and habits. I have systems and goals. My values and priorities are clear to me. I have a structure in life but at the same time, sometimes I’m willing to break my rules to experience novelty.

High-performance life is not easy. It requires sacrifices, courage, and discipline. Most people are too weak to take bold decisions and make commitments. They don’t have the discipline to show up every day. They are too afraid to make sacrifices because they don’t want to ‘miss out’. Then, they complain about their misery. They complain about how unfortunate they are.

I quit living an average life and I know that I can never go back to it. It sucks and I can’t resist it.

Living a high-performance life comes with its own high and low times. But I own all of it. I take full responsibility for everything that happens in my life. Yes, there are things that I can’t control in life but those things can’t stop me because I have the ability to figure things out regardless of the outside circumstances.

High performers know what they want. They get it or they die trying. They crave obstacles and challenges because they know that will force them to grow.

Average people, on the other hand, sit on their butt and hope to win a lottery so that they can get easy money which requires no obstacle.

The other side of being a high performer is to know when to switch the off button. They take intentional breaks to recover from work and enjoy the other aspects of life.

I don’t live the way I live only to receive rewards of success. I do it for the process. The process is the reward in itself.

I am free from delusion of success. I am successful today.

 

What are your content consumption habits?

Whether we notice it or not, we are consuming content every single day.

The platforms for content consumption are increasing every year. As well as the amount of content produced is increasing. These are the most common platforms for content consumption:

  • TV
  • Newspaper
  • Books
  • Ebooks
  • Magazine
  • Blogs
  • YouTube/Vlogs
  • Email newsletters
  • Webinars
  • Seminars
  • Podcasts
  • Audiobooks
  • Facebook posts
  • Tweets
  • Instagram posts

The list will keep on expanding.

We love consumption. There is so much content out there that sometimes we get overwhelmed with what content we should consume and what we should ignore.

The problem is not the ever-expanding content. The problem is our consumption habits.

Like we consume energy through food and then we spend the energy through exercise to balance it out, we should treat content consumption the same way.

Consumption has to be balanced with creation. If we keep on consuming and not creating, we will get “mentally obese”.

Another skill we need to adapt is letting go of the fear of missing out. Life is too short to consume all the content out there. I know that you want to gather every piece of information and keep up to date with your favorite influencers or TV shows. But you have to let some content go and be okay with it.

For every piece of new content you consume, you have to say no to the other content out there. Then, you should make time for creation especially if you’re an entrepreneur.

Types of content

  1. Inspiration / Motivation
  2. Entertainment / Fun
  3. Educational / Instructional

Some content is the combination of two or three types. We need to consciously consume content which is most useful for us at the moment.

If you’ve dealt with a failure or if you’re feeling down then consume something motivational. It is also a good idea to consume such content time to time to stay motivated. The need depends on each person so only you can decide how regular you should consume such content.

If you’re feeling burnt out or if you want to celebrate after a long hustle, you can consume entertainment or funny content to rest your mind and soul. The break will expose your mind to new stimulus which will lead to creativity or recovery.

If you’re feeling lost or stuck then it’s best to consume educational content. You will find solutions to your problems and get unstuck. It’s also good to consume such content daily so that you expand your knowledge base and find new possibilities.

Conclusion

If you want to be successful, you have to value your time. Observe your content consumption habits and make changes accordingly. A lot of your consumption should be educational and then you can adjust the motivational and entertainment content according to your needs. Finally, balance content consumption with creation such as writing, recording, designing, etc.

So, what are your current consumption habits?

The cost of following your passion

Start that business. Start that YouTube channel. Start that blog.

We hear it all the time. Some people emphasize on the benefits of making money by doing what you love while others may warn you about the challenges you will face on your journey.

I’m here to tell you the truth. Unless you’re highly talented or you have knowledge of something rare that can solve people’s problem, it will be hard to make money by doing what you love.

Let me tell you how and what you will feel if you have not started your journey yet.

  • You will feel like a failure.
  • You will doubt yourself.
  • You will find reasons to quit and go back to normal life.
  • You will be hated and criticized.
  • You will burn out and feel exhausted.
  • You will be confused and overwhelmed.
  • You will do things you hate.
  • You will make sacrifices.
  • You will waste your time and money.
  • Your life will be uncertain.

Surprised? no? Maybe you’ve heard all of that. But is it that bad as it sounds?

It is worse than it sounds like. When we experience these things in reality, it’s much worse than reading or knowing about it.

So why are we doing all this? Is it worth the effort? Let’s see the opposite side of the spectrum.

  • You will be on an adventure.
  • You will learn a lot of new things.
  • You will learn a lot about yourself.
  • You will do something you’re passionate about.
  • You will fight for your freedom.
  • You will meet new people on a similar journey as you.
  • You will learn to embrace failures.
  • You will learn to handle stress and depression.
  • You will learn to celebrate small wins.
  • You will grow as a person.

You will experience all of the good and the ugly side of following your passion.

The journey of following your passion is a package of good and bad things. The only question that remains is – Are you willing to take the full package?

If you’re only expecting good things, then forget about it and go back to your normal lifestyle. The package is only reserved for people willing to take it fully.

If you choose to live a normal lifestyle, then there is nothing wrong about it. If you enjoy your life the way it is, then you don’t need to take the journey. But if you want to take the risk and write your own story, then I salute you.

You are a badass. Few people have the courage to do so and stick with it even after experiencing the ugly parts of the journey.

Yes, it will be hard and messy. But it’s up to you to make the journey worthwhile.

I accept the full package. What about you?