The Peak Experiences You Need To Boost Life Fulfilment

Everyone wants to live a happy and fulfilled life.

So I went on a quest to find experiences that can boost life satisfaction.

Out of all the emotions and experiences, I found two phenomena that stood out the most. They both can boost your life satisfaction and make you lose the perception of time.

1. The State Of Flow

The concept of flow was introduced by Mihály Csíkszentmihályi.

Flow is the mental state of operation in which a person performing an activity is fully immersed in a feeling of energized focus, full involvement, and enjoyment in the process of the activity.

To enter the state of flow, there are three conditions that need to match.

  1. Clear goals and progress
  2. Clear and immediate feedback
  3. There must be a good balance between your perceived skills, and the perceived challenge at hand.

If your skills are better than the difficulty of the task, it leads to boredom. And if the difficulty of the task is more than your skills, it leads to anxiety.

You have experienced flow when you were so immersed in an activity that you forget the notion of time and space.

The best ways to find flow in your everyday life is while working, learning or playing. Just make sure to clear away all the distractions that may come during the peak state.

When you’re in the flow, you’re fully focused in the present moment. You lose the notion of time, space, and consciousness. You feel in control and confident that you can succeed. The activity becomes the reward as you gain the intrinsic motivation to perform the task.

According to Steven Kotler’s talk, when you get in the flow, your prefrontal cortex shuts off. So you no longer process time or make complex decisions. As a result, you get tremendous liberation. Your risk-taking, self-confidence, creativity, and productivity goes through the roof as you feel a sense of freedom.

2. The Feeling Of Awe

Awe is a magical phenomenon when you feel a mix of emotions such as curiosity, wonder, amazement, beauty, surprise or insignificance. It’s when you experience something beyond your understanding so you simply surrender to the feeling.

The feeling of awe doesn’t necessarily make you smile. You feel its presence when you feel something greater than yourself. In that moment, you lose yourself and your silly worries about your life.

Humans evolved to feel awe to help us transcend and live for a greater purpose than just surviving. In the past, we could not understand the science behind natural phenomenon so the concept of religion and god was invented.

Now, we have understood a lot more. But the side effect is that we are losing touch with awe. We stay stuck in our digital devices and the stress that comes with the corporate jobs.

You can get the benefits of spirituality without following any religion by bringing back awe in your life.

According to a research at UC Berkeley, awe even has anti-inflammatory effects on your body. Researchers found that feeling the beauty of nature, art, and spirituality lower the levels of pro-inflammatory cytokines.

“Awe, wonder and beauty promote healthier levels of cytokines suggests that the things we do to experience these emotions — a walk in nature, losing oneself in music, beholding art — has a direct influence upon health and life expectancy,” — Dacher Keltner (Psychologist)

Elevated levels of cytokines are associated with poor health and conditions like type-2 diabetes, heart disease, arthritis, alzheimer’s disease and clinical depression. Awe can help you prevent such conditions.

Children are masters at experiencing awe. For them, everything is new, surprising, amazing, and beyond their understanding. But we get used to what we see and experience every day. So we travel to new locations in the hunt of the same feeling.

Awe is one of the biggest reason we go on vacations or trips. We want to see monuments, natural environments, museums, and culture that are novel and leave us awestruck.

Besides traveling, you can also experience awe in your day-to-day life. Watching something great is not the only way to experience awe. You can also feel it when you think something and feel profound.

Take An Awe Walk

Get in nature and look around. You will find awe in every direction. Zoom in and notice the small details happening which you might not have noticed before.

  • The small buds coming out of the soil.
  • The tall trees which older than you.
  • The birds singing the songs.
  • The animals or insects working hard to find food.
  • Butterflies roaming around the flowers.
  • The sunshine touching your skin.

For once, forget all your worries and get lost in the moment.

There is nothing new about these sights. They happen all the time. The beauty is in the eyes of the watcher.

Watch Nature Documentary

A Research conducted by the scientists at Coventry University found that watching nature documentaries may be as good as meditation or mindfulness for wellbeing.

Nature documentaries are a shortcut to explore nature or animals on our planet. We used to have a deep connection with them before we built our own habitat — cities.

Look Inward

Feel your body. Notice your breath, heartbeat and other bodily sensations. Think about how hard your body is working to keep you alive.

Notice your thoughts and emotions. You are breathing. You are alive as a human. You can think. You can move your body at your own will.

Look Up

Just like you can zoom in, you can also zoom out and see things from a higher perspective. Look at the sky. Notice the stillness and the shapes of the clouds. Think about your size compared to the size of the universe.

Feel Your Food

Notice the texture, color, shape, and smell of your food. Think about how the food will provide you energy and nourishment. Think how hard the farmer worked to grow the food for you. Then, somebody packed it and brought it to your nearest store. You had the convenience to get it whenever you wanted. And now, you or someone else cooked it for you before it landed on your plate.

Appreciate Art

Read or watch engaging stories.

Watch awe-inspiring photographs or paintings in a museum or on the internet.

Listen to beautiful pieces of music. Close your eyes and lose yourself in music you find inspiring or euphoric.


Flow and awe are the two ways you can experience life beyond yourself. They will help you make the switch from the complaints and boredom that comes with the daily life to a life full of appreciation and excitement.

How will you experience flow and awe today?

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Life Out Of Balance? Here’s What You Need To Create An Epic Life.

I used to play all the time.

In fact, I was addicted to playing. All I thought and talked about was about playing.

Before video games entered my life, I was only drawn to outdoor and indoor games.

When I started playing video games, nothing was better than the feeling of make-believe and adventure.

I was hooked.

So much so that I could not study during my school time. At school, I would talk about video games with my friends. At home, I would play video games most of the time and when I tried to study, I could not focus because all I could think about was video games.

I did not realize how much addicted I was. It was not only destroying my academic life; it was also influencing my social life.

A few years later, when it was time for college, I enrolled in a game design course because games had become my passion.

As college started, I found the study of games fascinating. I could finally take an interest in the studies.

But as the study of games became my work, I stopped playing.

Then, I was hooked on learning.

Even when I played games, I played them to study them. I rarely played games for leisure.

All my focus was gaining as much knowledge as possible.

Later, I realized that learning and working are two different things. To convert knowledge into wisdom, learning has to be balanced with implementation.

Being a content consumer helped my life so much until I needed to take responsibility for my life. I had to practice skills instead of endlessly learning about them.

Then, there was a time in my life when I stopped playing and learning because I had too many items on my to-do list. I thought I was not ‘productive’ enough.

I’ve experienced extreme play, extreme learning, and extreme work. Like my past self, most people spend their lives in either of the three states.

Kids are given full freedom to play. Young people are told to study until they find a job and adults are supposed to work until retirement.

This system may have worked in the past but it’s not sustainable anymore.

Today, an average person is deprived of play, curiosity, and creativity.

Lack of play leads to stress and depression. Lack of curiosity leads to plateau and mediocrity. Lack of creativity leads to addictions and dissatisfaction.

If you’re reading this, chances are that you want more from life. You want to live a good life filled with growth and peace.

The Importance Of Play

“The opposite of play isn’t work. It’s depression.” — Jane McGonigal

Kids play with zero worries in mind.

As we become adults, play is replaced by work. You learn that you need to make money. You need to become successful. You need to take responsibilities.

All that is true. But, it does not mean the end of play.

Play is essential. Play brings fun to life. It eliminates negative thoughts, stress, and anxiety. It improves relationships. It keeps you young and creative.

So many adults these days are play deprived. They burn out because of workaholism. They don’t take time to rest their mind and recharge their soul.

We are only humans and we need spaces of unproductive times in our life. Staying ‘on’ all the time is a recipe for disaster. It leads to low willpower and motivation when we need it the most.

However, if you schedule spaces of unproductive or play time, you will come back disciplined and focused when you need it during the time of work. 

Life is not all about accomplishing big goals. Learn from children. They show us how being happy looks like.

So, take some time out and play for a while.

The Importance Of Learning

“Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.” — Mahatma Gandhi

The old times are gone.

Before, you could stick to one job without the fear of losing it if you kept doing average work.

Today, the world is changing at the fastest rate than ever before. The theory of evolution says that we need to adapt to the changes in order to survive.

So, you must stay up to date with the new tools and become a student over and over again.

Become a beginner and follow the pursuit of lifelong learning to excel at work and life.

Lifelong learning keeps your brain active and curious. It helps you to learn new skills or improve your current skillsets. It can take your personal and professional life to the next level.

Learning once, twice or thrice is not enough.

I don’t know about you but I don’t remember 95% of what was taught to me in school.

Learning happens when repetition happens. We can’t expect to see results if we keep consuming content without repeated practice or learning.

Our subconscious takes time before it can digest information.

Create short summaries or notes when you learn something and use them to revisit the main concepts. Also, you can consume the work of other people on the same topic to get new and fresh perspective.

The Importance Of (Creative) Work

“Your work is to discover your work, and then with all your heart, to give yourself to it.” — Buddha

If you want to make a living by doing something you love, you must become a creator. And if you love your work, it can be the source of fulfilment in life.

But if we don’t let creative habits be the source of dopamine production in our brains, we can become addicted to unhealthy habits.

It has become so easy to consume drugs, smoke, alcohol, junk food, porn, etc. It leads people to use addictions to produce dopamine in their brain whenever they want. And then, they need more of the same behavior to produce the same level of dopamine.

To escape the addiction cycle, learn to express and become a creator.

Creating and expressing are the best things you can do to serve your audience and your soul.

When you do creative work, you don’t need external motivation, apps or tactics to stay on track. You do the work because that’s your home.


Creating crappy content is easy. But masterpieces are the result of play, learning, and devoted work.

My best work comes out when there’s a balance between play, learning, and work in my life.

If I skip one of the three, my life falls out of balance. At the same time, I make sure I don’t overindulge in any of the three.

What’s one thing that is lagging in your life? Or are you overindulging?

I’m lacking some play in my life and I’m probably consuming more content than I need to create balance in my life.

What about you?

Want To Succeed Every Day?

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What are your content consumption habits?

Whether we notice it or not, we are consuming content every single day.

The platforms for content consumption are increasing every year. As well as the amount of content produced is increasing. These are the most common platforms for content consumption:

  • TV
  • Newspaper
  • Books
  • Ebooks
  • Magazine
  • Blogs
  • YouTube/Vlogs
  • Email newsletters
  • Webinars
  • Seminars
  • Podcasts
  • Audiobooks
  • Facebook posts
  • Tweets
  • Instagram posts

The list will keep on expanding.

We love consumption. There is so much content out there that sometimes we get overwhelmed with what content we should consume and what we should ignore.

The problem is not the ever-expanding content. The problem is our consumption habits.

Like we consume energy through food and then we spend the energy through exercise to balance it out, we should treat content consumption the same way.

Consumption has to be balanced with creation. If we keep on consuming and not creating, we will get “mentally obese”.

Another skill we need to adapt is letting go of the fear of missing out. Life is too short to consume all the content out there. I know that you want to gather every piece of information and keep up to date with your favorite influencers or TV shows. But you have to let some content go and be okay with it.

For every piece of new content you consume, you have to say no to the other content out there. Then, you should make time for creation especially if you’re an entrepreneur.

Types of content

  1. Inspiration / Motivation
  2. Entertainment / Fun
  3. Educational / Instructional

Some content is the combination of two or three types. We need to consciously consume content which is most useful for us at the moment.

If you’ve dealt with a failure or if you’re feeling down then consume something motivational. It is also a good idea to consume such content time to time to stay motivated. The need depends on each person so only you can decide how regular you should consume such content.

If you’re feeling burnt out or if you want to celebrate after a long hustle, you can consume entertainment or funny content to rest your mind and soul. The break will expose your mind to new stimulus which will lead to creativity or recovery.

If you’re feeling lost or stuck then it’s best to consume educational content. You will find solutions to your problems and get unstuck. It’s also good to consume such content daily so that you expand your knowledge base and find new possibilities.

Conclusion

If you want to be successful, you have to value your time. Observe your content consumption habits and make changes accordingly. A lot of your consumption should be educational and then you can adjust the motivational and entertainment content according to your needs. Finally, balance content consumption with creation such as writing, recording, designing, etc.

So, what are your current consumption habits?

How to get life-changing ideas

Creativity is a muscle. If you want to boost it, you have to train it regularly.

If your creative muscle is well-trained, then you can come with good ideas in any situation of life. Here are a few tips you can use to become more creative and come up with life-changing ideas.

1. Get into the creative state

Stop. Breath. Check in with your physical, mental, emotional and spiritual state.

These are negative states you want to avoid:

Emotionally

  • Unsettled
  • Dissatisfied
  • Irritable
  • Frustrated

Physically

  • Stressed
  • Tense
  • Restless
  • Exhausted

Spiritually

Disconnected from:

  • Self
  • Others
  • World
  • Job

Mentally

  • Unfocused
  • Worrying
  • Unsure
  • Distracted

If you find yourself in any of those states then you can do following activities to break the negative state:

  • Go for a walk
  • Change rooms
  • Make a cup of tea
  • Listen to music
  • Exercise
  • Sing, whistle, …
  • List reasons to be thankful
  • Breathe deeply a few times
  • Meditate
  • Reframe the situation, look at it from a positive perspective, a funny perspective…
  • Drink some water
  • Chat with a friend
  • Play a game
  • Have a meal mindfully
  • Write/speak out loud your thoughts
  • Daydream
  • Read

Once you’re in a creative state you’ll feel:

Emotionally

  • Excited
  • Happy
  • Contented
  • Playful

Physically

  • Comfortable
  • Flexible
  • Relaxed
  • Energetic

Spiritually

Connected from:

  • Self
  • Others
  • World
  • Job

Mentally

  • Focused
  • Clear
  • Confident
  • Open-minded

Ask yourself how you’re feeling in each of the state. If all the states are in check, it’s time to create the ideas.

2. Be silly

When you come up with ideas, don’t take yourself seriously. Think less, feel more. Lighten up your mood by finding humor. Think like a kid. For a kid, there are no rules. Playfulness plays a huge role in creativity.

No idea is useless. Even the ridiculously bad ideas have a purpose. They help your mind to get relaxed and then the ideas start to flow smoothly.

If you want to be creative, you have to let go of the fear of coming up with bad ideas. Don’t let bad ideas hurt your self-esteem. Let go of the fear of judgment. If you don’t do that, you may miss the good ideas hidden underneath all the bad ideas.

3. Be curious

Question assumptions and seek for answers. With the help of internet, you can find the answers to the questions that spark your curiosity. If you have a problem that you need to solve, chances are that there has been at least one other person who had the same problem and he/she solved it. The circumstances may vary but always look for inspiration.

4. Diversify your perspective

Hire different perspective to look for solutions in different ways. You can look from the perspective of:

  • Your higher self (Your better version)
  • Your future self
  • Your past self
  • Friend
  • Stranger
  • Expert (different areas)
  • Old person
  • Child

5. Shake things up

Get off of your routine and break life patterns. Experience novelty by trying something new. Notice the small things that you ignore everyday. You can daydream, choose random items to focus on, get on a random bus or try a new activity such as drawing, dancing, playing, etc.

Your mind will get new stimulus and you’ll be filled with new ideas that you may have never thought of before.


Once you have a lot of ideas on the table – eliminate the bad one; mix and match the good one and finally consider the ones which light up energy in you.

Learn to listen to your intuition. Our intuition doesn’t always roar. It sits in silence and waits for us to pay attention to it. As soon as you notice a spark, your state will change and it’s our job to find that little voice of intuition. So, stop. Breath. Listen to the spark and then turn those ideas into reality.