My number one priority in life as a 22-year-old.

On 23rd of June 2017, I turned 22 years old.

In the past 4 years, I’ve learned more things about life than rest of the 18 years of my life.

About 4 years ago, I stepped outside my house and started living in a hostel after enrolling in a college. I was away from my parents for the first time in my life.

I was free. I had full control of how I wanted to spend my time and who I wanted to surround myself with.

At first, I wanted to be cool college kid because I was shy at school. I had only a few close friends. I wanted to change my identity and become a famous guy whom everyone loved. Now that I look back, I was insecure. I wanted to be accepted by as many people as possible.

After 1 year of a hardcore trail and error, I was back to myself.

I eventually ended up with few close friends again. But I was happy. I formed great friendships with few people who inspired me in one way or another. For example, I learned to be carefree, have self-discipline, find humor and many other traits that I learned from different friends.

Most of all, I became friends with myself. I gave myself permission to be me. I started my journey to follow the path of personal growth and become a better version of myself.

I started following people on the internet who played the role of virtual mentors for me. I started reading self-help books, I started training my body. I learned the principles of living a life of purpose, growth, and fulfillment.

Soon enough, I was a different person. In essence, I was the same person but I was becoming a better version of myself every day.

As I got closer to my graduation, I started to think about career and wealth. By the end of 2016, I took a pledge to consume less and create more. I started learning about online business and bringing value to other people’s life.

Out of all the things that I learned in the past 4 years about health, wealth, business, relationships, and life; there is one thing that stood out the most. I’ve set my number priority in life based on that.

The number one priority of my life is not my goals. It’s not my career, not my business, it’s not even my freedom.

The number one priority of my life is the person who I am becoming.

At any given moment, I could lose anything. I could fail at reaching my goals, I could lose my arm, I could be robbed, I could go broke, I could be locked up in a prison, I could become sick, I could lose my strength and muscles that I’ve trained hard for.

One thing that no one can take away from me is the person that I have become. My values and my character traits will stay with me.

In the end, my values will determine my story and the quality of my life regardless of the life circumstances. I trust my ability to figure things out and make the best out of any situation.

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7 character traits of a lifestyle designer

1. They are rebellious

As a child, I used to crave freedom and independence. I had a burning desire in me create my own rules and live by them.

I hated most of the things that I was supposed to do because of no solid reason. As a child, I wasn’t wise enough to make decisions for myself. So, most of the times the reason for my rebel could be wrong. But the character trait of a rebellion passed on as I grew up.

In the past, freedom fighters used to rebel and fight for their freedom. Today, lifestyle designers still do the same. Only the context has changed.

2. They are dreamers

Goals and dreams should be separate.

Dreams could be unrealistic or maybe even impossible. The important part is to have a dream and pursue it as your life depends on it.

Goals, on the other hand, could be short-term that could be connected to your dreams. They can be logical and realistic.

Failing to meet a goal is part of the journey but giving up on dreams is not an option for them.

3. They are self-starters

Lifestyle designers do not wait for the motivation to come. They don’t rely on willpower. They start working on their dream lifestyle regardless of the current circumstances.

While most people find excuses for not starting, lifestyle designers find excuses to start today. They design their present life such that they can eventually move a step closer towards their dream lifestyle.

4. They are go-getters

For lifestyle designers, obstacles are not fatal. They don’t give any obstacle the power to kill their dreams.

They are willing to take risks and leave their comfort zone for their dreams.

They protect their dreams and do whatever it takes to get what they want. Most of the times, there are roadblocks that they have to tackle. But sometimes they have to take an alternative route to move towards their destination.

5. They are skeptical

They don’t assume what society, culture, family or friends have told them to be correct. Instead, they question assumptions.

They are ready to run experiments and allow themselves to run trails before coming to any conclusion. This sparks creativity in them and they are able to rise in spite of the ‘rules’ set by society.

They never stop learning. They even question themselves and seek creative ways to deal with problems.

6. They are self-assured

Self-assurance or self-efficiency is the belief in one’s own abilities and character. They truly believe that they will succeed.

They have an abundance mindset. They think big and believe that there is plenty of space and opportunity for success. They don’t let scarcity poison their mind.

7. They embrace change

They don’t fear change. In fact, they embrace it. They adapt to life situations and make changes as needed. They understand that change is part of the process of growth.

They adapt to circumstances and accept uncertainty in life.

Do you have what it takes to be a lifestyle designer?