The Peak Experiences You Need To Boost Life Fulfilment

Everyone wants to live a happy and fulfilled life.

So I went on a quest to find experiences that can boost life satisfaction.

Out of all the emotions and experiences, I found two phenomena that stood out the most. They both can boost your life satisfaction and make you lose the perception of time.

1. The State Of Flow

The concept of flow was introduced by Mihály Csíkszentmihályi.

Flow is the mental state of operation in which a person performing an activity is fully immersed in a feeling of energized focus, full involvement, and enjoyment in the process of the activity.

To enter the state of flow, there are three conditions that need to match.

  1. Clear goals and progress
  2. Clear and immediate feedback
  3. There must be a good balance between your perceived skills, and the perceived challenge at hand.

If your skills are better than the difficulty of the task, it leads to boredom. And if the difficulty of the task is more than your skills, it leads to anxiety.

You have experienced flow when you were so immersed in an activity that you forget the notion of time and space.

The best ways to find flow in your everyday life is while working, learning or playing. Just make sure to clear away all the distractions that may come during the peak state.

When you’re in the flow, you’re fully focused in the present moment. You lose the notion of time, space, and consciousness. You feel in control and confident that you can succeed. The activity becomes the reward as you gain the intrinsic motivation to perform the task.

According to Steven Kotler’s talk, when you get in the flow, your prefrontal cortex shuts off. So you no longer process time or make complex decisions. As a result, you get tremendous liberation. Your risk-taking, self-confidence, creativity, and productivity goes through the roof as you feel a sense of freedom.

2. The Feeling Of Awe

Awe is a magical phenomenon when you feel a mix of emotions such as curiosity, wonder, amazement, beauty, surprise or insignificance. It’s when you experience something beyond your understanding so you simply surrender to the feeling.

The feeling of awe doesn’t necessarily make you smile. You feel its presence when you feel something greater than yourself. In that moment, you lose yourself and your silly worries about your life.

Humans evolved to feel awe to help us transcend and live for a greater purpose than just surviving. In the past, we could not understand the science behind natural phenomenon so the concept of religion and god was invented.

Now, we have understood a lot more. But the side effect is that we are losing touch with awe. We stay stuck in our digital devices and the stress that comes with the corporate jobs.

You can get the benefits of spirituality without following any religion by bringing back awe in your life.

According to a research at UC Berkeley, awe even has anti-inflammatory effects on your body. Researchers found that feeling the beauty of nature, art, and spirituality lower the levels of pro-inflammatory cytokines.

“Awe, wonder and beauty promote healthier levels of cytokines suggests that the things we do to experience these emotions — a walk in nature, losing oneself in music, beholding art — has a direct influence upon health and life expectancy,” — Dacher Keltner (Psychologist)

Elevated levels of cytokines are associated with poor health and conditions like type-2 diabetes, heart disease, arthritis, alzheimer’s disease and clinical depression. Awe can help you prevent such conditions.

Children are masters at experiencing awe. For them, everything is new, surprising, amazing, and beyond their understanding. But we get used to what we see and experience every day. So we travel to new locations in the hunt of the same feeling.

Awe is one of the biggest reason we go on vacations or trips. We want to see monuments, natural environments, museums, and culture that are novel and leave us awestruck.

Besides traveling, you can also experience awe in your day-to-day life. Watching something great is not the only way to experience awe. You can also feel it when you think something and feel profound.

Take An Awe Walk

Get in nature and look around. You will find awe in every direction. Zoom in and notice the small details happening which you might not have noticed before.

  • The small buds coming out of the soil.
  • The tall trees which older than you.
  • The birds singing the songs.
  • The animals or insects working hard to find food.
  • Butterflies roaming around the flowers.
  • The sunshine touching your skin.

For once, forget all your worries and get lost in the moment.

There is nothing new about these sights. They happen all the time. The beauty is in the eyes of the watcher.

Watch Nature Documentary

A Research conducted by the scientists at Coventry University found that watching nature documentaries may be as good as meditation or mindfulness for wellbeing.

Nature documentaries are a shortcut to explore nature or animals on our planet. We used to have a deep connection with them before we built our own habitat — cities.

Look Inward

Feel your body. Notice your breath, heartbeat and other bodily sensations. Think about how hard your body is working to keep you alive.

Notice your thoughts and emotions. You are breathing. You are alive as a human. You can think. You can move your body at your own will.

Look Up

Just like you can zoom in, you can also zoom out and see things from a higher perspective. Look at the sky. Notice the stillness and the shapes of the clouds. Think about your size compared to the size of the universe.

Feel Your Food

Notice the texture, color, shape, and smell of your food. Think about how the food will provide you energy and nourishment. Think how hard the farmer worked to grow the food for you. Then, somebody packed it and brought it to your nearest store. You had the convenience to get it whenever you wanted. And now, you or someone else cooked it for you before it landed on your plate.

Appreciate Art

Read or watch engaging stories.

Watch awe-inspiring photographs or paintings in a museum or on the internet.

Listen to beautiful pieces of music. Close your eyes and lose yourself in music you find inspiring or euphoric.


Flow and awe are the two ways you can experience life beyond yourself. They will help you make the switch from the complaints and boredom that comes with the daily life to a life full of appreciation and excitement.

How will you experience flow and awe today?

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How To Think Like Tim Ferriss To Live A Good Life

Who doesn’t know Tim Ferriss?

Maybe you do, maybe you don’t.

You may be a true fan of him. Maybe you’ve just heard of him. Or maybe you’ve never heard this name before.

In any case, here’s a quick introduction to get started.

Tim Ferriss is the host of his famous podcast — The Tim Ferriss Show where he interviews success people from different fields. He asks them great questions and breaks down their success into bite size chunks which we can take away into our lives.

He is also the author of the books — 4-hour Workweek, 4-hour Chef, 4-hour Body, Tools of Titans and Tribe of Mentors.

4-hour Workweek is about lifestyle design and location independence. 4-hour Chef is about learning smarter, and 4-hour Body is about hacking the body.

Tools of Titans and Tribe of Mentors have a different theme. They are about getting advice, tips, tools, tactics, routine or inspiration from successful people in different fields.

Tim Ferriss is a self-proclaimed “human guinea pig” which means he believes in self-experimentation to test out assumptions and find out what most people could never imagine.

He has inspired millions of people to pursue their dreams and become lifelong learners. He continues to grow as he teaches us to be healthy, wealthy and wise.

His mission is to create an army of thinkers who can become better than him. If the student becomes better than the master, the master becomes successful.

Two of his major guiding principles are:

  1. “Hard choices, easy life. Easy choices, hard life.” — Jerzy Gregorek.
  2. The quality of your life is determined by the quality of the questions you ask.

Therefore,

Hard Choices + Good Questions = Good Life

Making Hard Choices

What if making hard choices were easy? That’s a type of question he would ask himself.

So, let’s consider it.

Hard choices are not hard by nature. They look hard to us because of fear, uncertainty, doubt or lack of clarity.

The antidote is a simple exercise which he refers to as “Fear-setting”.

In the exercise, he asks us to take a sheet of paper and make three columns titled “Define”, “Prevent” and “Repair”.

In the first column, you list out every fear you have that stops you from living the life you want. In the next column, write everything you can do to prevent the situation from happening. In the last column, write everything you can do to mitigate the damage if the worst-case scenario came true.

On the next page, switch sides and write everything good that can come out from taking the risk.

The last step is the most important step of the exercise. On the third page, determine the cost of inaction. How would your life look like in the next months or years if you didn’t take the action?

Consider every aspect such as emotional, physical and financial when you think about the cost of inaction.

The purpose of the exercise is to take a microscopic view of the situation. Most people don’t make the hard choices because they are paralyzed by fear.

When we define fear and capture it on a piece of paper, it doesn’t look that intimidating anymore. Many times, the positives outweigh the negatives.

Courage comes from clarity. The exercise helps us to switch from the fear mindset to the possibility mindset.

Most of our thoughts are fear based:

What if I go broke?

What if I’m not good enough?

What if I miss the opportunity?

What if I lose my girlfriend or boyfriend?

What if I get rejected?

When you define your fears on a paper, you don’t dwell on them any longer. Now, your mind is free to think about your untapped capabilities and the new possibilities. You ask bigger questions:

What if I change the rules?

What if I develop a new skill?

What if there’s a better opportunity coming my way?

What if I’m meant to do something greater?

What if I just start?

Asking Good Questions

You are only limited by the questions you ask yourself. Poor quality questions give poor results. Good questions can change your life.

The purpose of asking good questions is not to get an answer every time. But, it’s to explore the possibilities and expand your imagination.

By asking good questions, you train your mind to think in the ways that others might not have considered before.

So how do you ask good questions, you may ask?

The answer — question assumptions and be specific if you can.

Tim questions the status quo and the norms that society assumes as rules to live by.

Most people work 9–5 jobs, hate their lives and wait for the retirement to enjoy their lives. But he read Vagabonding, questioned assumptions and created a guide for a regular person who is stuck in a traditional lifestyle. That book became The New York Times Bestseller — The 4-Hour Workweek.

Look everything with skepticism and be open-minded. As a bonus, you can add specificity to your questions. Being specific gives you the context and constraints which sparks creativity and helps you form a plan of action. It also helps to deconstruct the answer which may lead you to find alternative solutions.

Here are some questions he asked himself that changed Tim’s life with my remarks in the brackets:

  • What if I did the opposite (questioning assumption) for 48 hours? (being specific)
  • What would I do/have/be if I had $10 million (being specific)? What’s my real Target Monthly Income? (questioning assumption)
  • If I could only work 2 hours per week (being specific) on my business, what would I do?
  • What if I couldn’t pitch my product directly? (questioning assumption)
  • Do I need to make it back the way I lost it? (questioning assumption)
  • What if I could only subtract to solve problems? (questioning assumption)

Asking good questions is not an easy task. It comes with practice. To get better, increase the number of questions you ask yourself and identify how much you’re questioning assumptions or being specific.

Quantity brings quality. And to further improve the quality of your questions, reflect to make constant improvement.


Asking good questions is about thinking and making hard choices is about doing. Both are essential ingredients to live the life you want.

If you keep thinking, there will be no progress. And if you keep taking action without thinking, you’ll end up in the middle of nowhere.

Keep the cycle of ‘making hard choices’ and ‘asking good questions’ running.

Now, It’s your turn.

What hard choices will you make? It could be a big life decision or small daily actions.

What questions can you ask yourself that will make the biggest impact on your life?

Always be questioning.

Always be experimenting.

Always be learning.

Always be evolving.

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How To Dramatically Improve Your Life In 30 Minutes A Day

30 minutes.

30 x 7 = 210 minutes or 3.5 hours a week.

Even if you skip a day, you’ve got 3 hours in a week to change your life.

That’s a lot of time.

The problem is not the time; it’s the lack of intentions.

We have so many options, especially today.

Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat, WhatsApp — each app shows you stories of how people are spending their time.

Before you know it, there’s another story telling you what you’re missing out on.

There’s a constant battle of attention. Look at me. Buy this. Do that.

Humans are complex creatures. We don’t go after what we want. We go after what others want.

When we don’t get what others want; we hate, shame or blame our lives. We rarely take the time to set intentions in our lives. Instead, we chase what others go after.

You might have clicked on the article to find out what you should do in 30 minutes to change your life.

I can’t tell you that because I don’t know. But I can help you find out yourself what you must do in those 30 minutes that will change your life.

To discover what you need in life, examine your life and see what’s missing from these productive uses of time:

Working (creative, important)

Learning (reading, listening, watching or doing)

Playing or relaxing

Thinking or reflecting

Meditating or buffering (empty spaces)

Connecting (with right people)

Moving and eating (healthy foods)

Sleeping

Once you identify the number one thing missing from your life, use those 30 minutes to bring balance to your life.

  • If you don’t work on a creative project or hobby, start.
  • If you don’t learn something, start.
  • If you don’t already take out time to relax or play, start.
  • If you don’t reflect by journalling or thinking, start.
  • If you don’t meditate or don’t have empty spaces in life, start.
  • If you don’t connect with like-minded people, start.
  • If you don’t move your body or make healthy meals for yourself, start.
  • If you get less than 7 hours of sleep, add 30 minutes to your sleep.

What if you have many things missing from your life?

If that’s the case, cut out excess from your life. Excess or lack of any of the above uses of time may not be good.

Find out what you’re doing too much of and cut some time out of it. There’s always enough hours in the day. It’s a matter of setting your priorities and intentions straight.

What if you still don’t have enough time?

I’ve got a solution for that too.

You can further divide your 3 hours into 1.5 hours and 1.5 hours to add two things in your life. If you want to add 3 things, use 1 hour a week for each activity.

The breakdown depends on your situation and circumstances. Customize how you want to schedule those 30 minutes. Remember, you also have a weekend when you can give more time.

Another solution is to combine activities to kill two (or three) birds with one stone. For example, you can play, move and connect at the same time if you workout with a buddy and turn it into play.

Learn to manage and save your energy for your 30 minutes. Give your full focus and attention no matter what you do. Whether it is deep work, deep learning, deep relaxation, deep thinking, deep meditation, deep connection, deep sleep or a challenging workout.

The best times to carve out your 30 minutes are at the start or the end of the day. Use whatever time suits your lifestyle. But make sure those 30 minutes are distractions free.

When you start something, you will not always love it from the beginning. Sometimes, it takes time for you to realize the importance of an activity. Small actions every day can transform your life.

When you look back at your life, you can only thank yourself for each second of those 30 minutes a day.

So, how are you going to spend your golden 30 minutes?

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The Anatomy Of Transformations — Renew Yourself For Better Life

I’m sure you’ve seen people who have radically changed their life for the better in a matter of months or years.

The simplest example is the transformation pictures we see on the front page of most health and fitness products.

We wonder — How did that person change so fast? Did they take some sort of magic pill?

Then, we appreciate their dedication and move on with our normal lives.

Imagine if you could make that level of transformation every few months or years in your life.

I’m not just talking about the physical looks. I’m speaking of the internal character or attitude, succeeding in different aspects, learning new things, etc.

If you constantly transform yourself, you will live many epic lives in one body. It’s almost as if you will be reborn and keep creating better versions of yourself.

Most people will never experience such transformations in their lives. They will stay in the reactive mode and let life happen to them. They will stay the same all their life.

But you can change because change is good when it’s intentionally used to improve yourself.

Let’s talk about each stage of a transformation.

Stage 1: The Spark

It’s when it hits you — I (seriously) need to change.

For some, the source of the spark is fear while for others, it’s inspiration. For example, looking at your blood profile and deciding to change your lifestyle is fear based. Looking at your heroes and deciding to be like them is inspiration based.

Inspiration-based spark
Fear-based spark

Both are powerful enough to create initial momentum in your life. But none of them are strong enough to keep the momentum running for transformable change.

Sometimes, the spark works against us when we try to skip the journey and want fast results. We start with level 10 habits instead of level 1 because of the initial rush of motivation.

In such cases, we soon burnout and go back to our past lives. To avoid these situations, practice patience. Use the spark to get started but don’t use it to try to skip the process of transformation.

Stage 2: Daily Actions

The spark is the sexy part. It puts you in a peak state and you get a rush of motivation right away.

The small daily actions are the difficult pieces of the puzzle. At first, the spark helps you to do the daily actions. But soon, the spark fades away.

When the spark is gone, the daily actions may feel like hell. At this stage, you can use your willpower reserves.

Keep willpower and energy saved in your reserves for the daily actions you need to create the change in your life. Don’t waste your decision-making power on other useless activities so you can use it later when you need it the most.

But don’t worry, you only need willpower for few days until you reach the next stages. So, keep going even when you don’t feel like it.

Use reminders and triggers to stay on track. But don’t just remind yourself of the actions you must take. Keep reminding yourself of the deep reason you’re doing what you’re doing.

Set the stakes high by giving consequences to your actions using reward or punishment rules. Adjust the difficulty of the tasks if you have to but don’t quit at this point. A beautiful transformation is coming your way.

Stage 3: Environment Shift

This is the stage where most people quit and it’s not their fault. They don’t even know why they fail. They blame themselves for not being strong enough but in reality, they only needed a few tweaks to make it easier for them to sustain new behaviors.

First, you must change your environment. Your environment should support your growth and not derail you from the daily actions.

Make it harder for yourself to perform the destructive tasks. Take willpower out of the equation by crossing out your options. For example, if we had the choice between watching Netflix or practicing a new skill, we’d probably choose Netflix because it’s easy and comforting.

There is nothing wrong with watching Netflix but it should not come in the way of your transformation. Your downtime should be intentional and not based on impulse based actions.

To make sure you watch Netflix only when you intend to, log out from the website every time you’re done watching. Keep it blocked (using browser extensions) during the times of performing your daily actions.

In the same way, you can make it easier for yourself to do the new task. Let’s say you want to learn to play an instrument. Keep it in the sight and within your reach. Don’t pack it every time you’re done playing it. This way, you can use any free time to practice for a few minutes.

Next, comes your social environment. People around you change the way you think and live. If the people you see in your life don’t support you, there are high chances of you falling back to your past lifestyle.

Raise the standards of your social environment by keeping strict policy of who you spend your time with. Consciously or unconsciously, they impact your mind in positive or negative ways. If you have to spend time with such people for some reasons, then be cautious of their presence. Try not to let them affect you as much.

It’s a good idea to join a community of like-minded people who are following a similar journey as you. You will get support and hear other’s struggles so you can support them as well. When you get to discuss and express yourself, you feel connected and stay focused to keep going through the change.

The last thing you need to set your environment for success is accountability. Some require personal accountability while others may need social accountability.

Track your behavior and use a journal to do daily and weekly reflections for personal accountability. Or you can keep yourself accountable by sharing your progress with a group or a coach. But either way, you must take full responsibility of your transformation.

Stage 4: Cognitive Dissonance

According to Wikipedia, cognitive dissonance is the mental discomfort (psychological stress) experienced by a person who simultaneously holds two or more contradictory beliefs, ideas, or values.

When you change your identity, you perform your daily actions effortlessly because that’s part of who you are. It’s not about who you want to be any longer. You are already that person and all you’re doing is performing your duty.

If you identify yourself as a healthy person, you will not do the things an unhealthy person does. This is the difference between people who “don’t” do certain activities and people who “can’t” do them.

When you do activities that are not aligned with your identity, beliefs or values; you experience cognitive dissonance. You feel mental discomfort because that’s not what you do.

Changing beliefs and values takes some time. To accelerate the process of change, you can feed your mind with the knowledge you need that supports your values. Get inspiration from top people in the field of your new identity.

Use your leisure time or empty time to read books, watch courses, listen to audiobooks or podcasts related to your desired change in your identity.

Stage 5: Change Of Will

The last stage of transformation is the change of your will. At this stage, you change so much that you no longer need to use willpower to make right decisions. Now, you crave the habits you used to procrastinate on.

You invest so much of your time, effort and energy that going back to your previous lifestyle is not an option anymore. Now, your progress is too precious for you to lose. It’s one of the best use of the behavioral economics theory ‘loss aversion’.

You become intrinsically motivated. You transform. People notice the difference in you. (Warning: You may even get bad dreams of you engaging in destructive past behaviors)

The great philosopher, Aristotle says that an individual’s character development ranges on a spectrum of worst to better:

  1. Vicious character: Taking pleasure in acting wrongly.
  2. Incontinent character: Acting wrongly out of weakness.
  3. Continent character: Acting rightly using willpower. (inclined to act wrongly)
  4. Virtuous character: Acting rightly because of strong will.

When you reach the virtuous character in your transformation, you know the life cycle of a transformation is complete.

And what happens next?

You go back to stage 1 (the spark), set (beyond SMART) goals, and prepare yourself for another transformation.

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7 Secrets To Know About Goals That Will Make You Successful

A typical goal-setting story:

  1. Get motivated.
  2. Read about goal-setting.
  3. Download the latest habit app.
  4. Take action for a few days.
  5. Quit.

But you’re not one of them… or are you?

Don’t worry. We all have been there. It’s not your fault, it’s just the fault of the human brain.

But today, let’s change that.

If you’ve read articles about goal-setting before, you might have come across SMART goals.

It’s a framework which says we should keep Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic and Timely (SMART) goals to accomplish our goals.

Although the framework is useful, it’s not always helpful for all the goals in life. So, let me share with you another method of goal-setting which works wonders.

Micro Habits

So often, when we are all pumped up and inspired to accomplish big goals, we forget about the daily small actions we must take to reach closer to our goals.

Reaching your goals is the result of your habits. So, instead of shooting for a goal, shoot for micro habits and set the criteria for success tiny.

For example, if your goal is to read more books, the big goal is to read a book every week. A “SMART” goal is to read for 30 minutes every day at 8 AM. And a micro habit is to at least read a single page today. Once you finish one page, your next goal is to read another page.

A micro habit reduces the friction of accomplishing big goals, banishes ‘all or nothing’ mentality, and makes the criteria for success small. It lets you take the smallest first step towards your goal in the present moment.

It builds momentum as you build a chain of daily success. It gets you on an upward spiral of feeling good about accomplishing micro habits so you keep the habit streak running.

Behavior-based Goals

There are two ways you can track your progress:

a) Based on your behavior

b) Based on the outcome

An example of the outcome-based goal is hitting a number on the weighing scale. An example of the behavior-based goal is eating a healthy meal.

Focus on the things you can control directly. Yes, you can influence the number on the scale indirectly but to reach that result, you can eat healthy meals, which is directly in your hands.

There is nothing wrong with measuring the outcome but before that, measure your actions.

This way, we can’t blame anyone or anything but take full responsibility for our actions to reach our goals.

Expectations

Aim high, raise the expectations from yourself but lower the expectations from the results. Raising the expectations from yourself is about raising your standards.

It’s important to have self-efficacy (belief in oneself) to reach your goals. But, don’t stretch the difficulty so much that it turns into a false hope syndrome.

Also, don’t rely on results to feel happy. Many times, it takes longer to reach your goals than expected. So, don’t get disappointed. Slow progress is better than no progress. Let the micro habits and behavior-based goals be the source of your pleasure.

It’s good to “shoot for the stars” but so often, we raise the bar of our expectations from result so high only to feel unmotivated if we don’t see the result we want. It may lead to a downward spiral of negative emotions and we may quit altogether.

So, if your goal is to become better at your craft, practice it using a micro habit and track your behavior. Now, repeat that without the need to feel happy with the results. You can aim to be the best but know that it will take time and effort. Have patience and keep performing.

Delay the gratification and don’t expect a good result. As you will perform the daily grind, you will see better results, eventually. But first, you must perform with no expectations.

Flexibility

Sometimes, you don’t know what you really want when you set a goal. You may set a goal to lose the extra pounds and start running. But later, as you train your body more often, you may start enjoying strength training.

Similarly, you may pledge to meditate in the evening but you fail to do so often. Here, you can change the timing and meditate right after waking up when you can make sure to get it done.

So, don’t hesitate to change the direction of your goals or actions. Life is a discovery process. We don’t know who we are and what we want. The only way to find out what you want is to try things out.

It’s also okay to change what you want. You may set a goal to earn more money so you can buy a car. But years after when you have the money, your interest may change and you may no longer want a new car.

So, stay flexible with the approach or the goals. There is no need to be rigid with the goal-setting. But you do need to be resilient, which brings me to the next point.

Resiliency

Being resilient in the age of instant gratification is a tough job.

To become resilient, first, you must have a strong reason for your goals. Do you know the core reason you’re doing what you’re doing?

For example, the core reason to increase your productivity could be because you think there is more to life than work. You may want to spend less time working so you can do other things you want to do in your one and only life.

Another reason could be to do better quality work. You may want to make a greater impact on the world with your work or see better results because you want to thrive in life.

Second, you must practice resiliency in your daily life. Make it a habit to persevere and keep at it until you get what you want.

Take full responsibility for your success. Rethink failure. Take setbacks as opportunities to learn and improve.

Circumstances, obstacles or your environment can’t get in your way because no matter what comes your way, you will never give up.

Long-term View

As much as it’s important to focus on micro habits, it’s also crucial to have a bigger perspective of ‘what’ and ‘why’ of your goals.

Take the time to reflect on a regular basis. Do you short-term goals align with your long-term view? Are you performing the right micro goals? Are you tracking the right behaviors?

Focus on the biggest win by using the Pareto’s 80/20 principle. 80% results come from 20% of your actions. Deconstruct your goal to find out the key habits and the right metrics to measure.

Be intentional with your actions and goals. Don’t do the busy work for the sake of moving in any direction. Educate yourself to move in the right direction.

Your long-term vision doesn’t have to be realistic. A fulfilled life is more about striving than achieving. You will get hedonically adapted to achievements but you will always find meaning in life when you strive for more greatness in life.

Also, don’t worry if you have too many items on your bucket list. Have a long-term vision and think about what you want to do now and what you can do later in life. You don’t need any more tactics to accomplish your goals except the next (and last) one.

Focus

Success is not complicated. It’s rare because it takes relentless focus towards the most important thing in life to reach the top.

You have all the distractions in the world. Things like internet, news, social media, people, events, ‘busy’ work, food, shopping, entertainment, etc. try to steal your focus.

It has become an art to protect your vision from such distractions.

To stay focused you can:

  • Reflect on your goals daily and weekly
  • Put reminders
  • Block the calendar
  • Write down your goal and habits
  • Write a “not to do” list
  • Set accountability (personal, friend, community or coach)
  • Set stakes — punishment or reward (Do it in the beginning but ultimately, become intrinsically motivated)

Another category of distractions are the ones that look healthy on the surface but can take your focus away from your number one goal. Unlimited information (books, blogs, podcasts, courses), other goals in life, too many ideas are the examples of such distractions.

Lifelong learning is your best friend but you should know what to choose, what to skip, when to fast forward and when to slow down according to your current knowledge.

You may also have other ideas or goals in life you want to accomplish. You can pursue 2–5 goals at the same time if the goals are not difficult or if they lie in different categories. For example, you can lose weight and succeed in your career at the same time.

But for difficult goals, you must choose one at a time in your life. This is where the Follow One Course Until Success (FOCUS) principle comes in.


Goal-setting is much like planting a tree.

First, you want to set the intentions, which represents planting the seeds.

Then, you want to water the seeds, which means taking action. When it’s time to take the action, be a hero and silence the lizard brain and the chimp mind.

Last, you want to put your energy into the action which represents sunlight. Taking action is not enough. You must put in your focus and effort into the task. This is why it’s so important to manage your energy on purpose so you can give your best when it’s time to take the action.

Over to you. Go, take the first micro step towards your biggest goal now.

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Life Out Of Balance? Here’s What You Need To Create An Epic Life.

I used to play all the time.

In fact, I was addicted to playing. All I thought and talked about was about playing.

Before video games entered my life, I was only drawn to outdoor and indoor games.

When I started playing video games, nothing was better than the feeling of make-believe and adventure.

I was hooked.

So much so that I could not study during my school time. At school, I would talk about video games with my friends. At home, I would play video games most of the time and when I tried to study, I could not focus because all I could think about was video games.

I did not realize how much addicted I was. It was not only destroying my academic life; it was also influencing my social life.

A few years later, when it was time for college, I enrolled in a game design course because games had become my passion.

As college started, I found the study of games fascinating. I could finally take an interest in the studies.

But as the study of games became my work, I stopped playing.

Then, I was hooked on learning.

Even when I played games, I played them to study them. I rarely played games for leisure.

All my focus was gaining as much knowledge as possible.

Later, I realized that learning and working are two different things. To convert knowledge into wisdom, learning has to be balanced with implementation.

Being a content consumer helped my life so much until I needed to take responsibility for my life. I had to practice skills instead of endlessly learning about them.

Then, there was a time in my life when I stopped playing and learning because I had too many items on my to-do list. I thought I was not ‘productive’ enough.

I’ve experienced extreme play, extreme learning, and extreme work. Like my past self, most people spend their lives in either of the three states.

Kids are given full freedom to play. Young people are told to study until they find a job and adults are supposed to work until retirement.

This system may have worked in the past but it’s not sustainable anymore.

Today, an average person is deprived of play, curiosity, and creativity.

Lack of play leads to stress and depression. Lack of curiosity leads to plateau and mediocrity. Lack of creativity leads to addictions and dissatisfaction.

If you’re reading this, chances are that you want more from life. You want to live a good life filled with growth and peace.

The Importance Of Play

“The opposite of play isn’t work. It’s depression.” — Jane McGonigal

Kids play with zero worries in mind.

As we become adults, play is replaced by work. You learn that you need to make money. You need to become successful. You need to take responsibilities.

All that is true. But, it does not mean the end of play.

Play is essential. Play brings fun to life. It eliminates negative thoughts, stress, and anxiety. It improves relationships. It keeps you young and creative.

So many adults these days are play deprived. They burn out because of workaholism. They don’t take time to rest their mind and recharge their soul.

We are only humans and we need spaces of unproductive times in our life. Staying ‘on’ all the time is a recipe for disaster. It leads to low willpower and motivation when we need it the most.

However, if you schedule spaces of unproductive or play time, you will come back disciplined and focused when you need it during the time of work. 

Life is not all about accomplishing big goals. Learn from children. They show us how being happy looks like.

So, take some time out and play for a while.

The Importance Of Learning

“Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.” — Mahatma Gandhi

The old times are gone.

Before, you could stick to one job without the fear of losing it if you kept doing average work.

Today, the world is changing at the fastest rate than ever before. The theory of evolution says that we need to adapt to the changes in order to survive.

So, you must stay up to date with the new tools and become a student over and over again.

Become a beginner and follow the pursuit of lifelong learning to excel at work and life.

Lifelong learning keeps your brain active and curious. It helps you to learn new skills or improve your current skillsets. It can take your personal and professional life to the next level.

Learning once, twice or thrice is not enough.

I don’t know about you but I don’t remember 95% of what was taught to me in school.

Learning happens when repetition happens. We can’t expect to see results if we keep consuming content without repeated practice or learning.

Our subconscious takes time before it can digest information.

Create short summaries or notes when you learn something and use them to revisit the main concepts. Also, you can consume the work of other people on the same topic to get new and fresh perspective.

The Importance Of (Creative) Work

“Your work is to discover your work, and then with all your heart, to give yourself to it.” — Buddha

If you want to make a living by doing something you love, you must become a creator. And if you love your work, it can be the source of fulfilment in life.

But if we don’t let creative habits be the source of dopamine production in our brains, we can become addicted to unhealthy habits.

It has become so easy to consume drugs, smoke, alcohol, junk food, porn, etc. It leads people to use addictions to produce dopamine in their brain whenever they want. And then, they need more of the same behavior to produce the same level of dopamine.

To escape the addiction cycle, learn to express and become a creator.

Creating and expressing are the best things you can do to serve your audience and your soul.

When you do creative work, you don’t need external motivation, apps or tactics to stay on track. You do the work because that’s your home.


Creating crappy content is easy. But masterpieces are the result of play, learning, and devoted work.

My best work comes out when there’s a balance between play, learning, and work in my life.

If I skip one of the three, my life falls out of balance. At the same time, I make sure I don’t overindulge in any of the three.

What’s one thing that is lagging in your life? Or are you overindulging?

I’m lacking some play in my life and I’m probably consuming more content than I need to create balance in my life.

What about you?

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5 Ways You Can Raise Your Standards That Will Upgrade Your Life


“If you want to change your life you have to raise your standards.” — Tony Robbins

The quality of your life is the reflection of your standards.

You could make millions and still stay poor in your mind. Being poor is not about making less money.

Being poor is a mentality. It’s a choice to live a low standard of life.

When I say low standard, I don’t mean the luxuries and pleasures that rich people can afford.

You can raise your standards regardless of how much money you make. It’s not about money, it’s about mindset.

Different people have different values. We can have high standards in some area of our lives while we may avoid the other areas.

The five major areas of life where you can raise your standards:

Health

According to Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, one in four adults had two or more chronic health conditions in 2012.

In 2015, 79% of adults did not meet recommendations for both aerobic and muscle-strengthening physical activity. Over 1 in 3 adults (about 92.1 million) had at least one type of cardiovascular disease.

Clearly, an average person is a not a healthy person. Getting diagnosed with diseases has become a common thing.

Smoking, excessive drinking, eating unhealthy foods and a sedentary lifestyle are the major reasons for such an epidemic.

Your health and fitness have to rise above an average person if you want to live well and feel good in your body.

Raise your standards by eating healthy foods, training your body, sleeping well and relaxing on purpose.

Wealth

If you want to raise your wealth standards, learn to manage your finances. Spend money wisely, track your expenses, save for the rainy day, negotiate and invest.

You can live a frugal life without being a miser by buying things, services or experiences that truly enhance your life. Avoid impulse shopping for yourself but don’t hesitate to spend money on the people you love.

You can also make more money by making yourself invaluable and ask for what you deserve.

Being invaluable means doing extraordinary work. Constantly seek opportunities to learn and improve your work. Keep making progress and don’t settle for average work.

When you raise your work standards, you get a better outcome. As a result, you love your work. Average work leads to lousy results, and that’s when we hate our work.

“We only get what we believe that we deserve. Raise the bar, raise your standards and you will receive a better outcome.” — Joel Brown

Develop strong work ethic, keep your commitments and over-deliver to stand out from the crowd. Find your strengths and develop upon them to provide value to the world.

Average work will be replaced by the machines. Develop creativity and thinking skills to secure your place in the future workforce.

Relationships

“Refuse to lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs.” — Mandy Hale

Meeting new people is great. But, if you’re not careful about people who you surround yourself with most of the time, you may get stuck in a mediocre or stereotypical thinking patterns. Don’t lower your standards to fit in with other people. Find people who raise the bar and help you improve.

Watch out for the people who show jealousy, selfishness, passive aggression, dishonesty, or narcissism. Such people are energy vampires.

Surround yourself with people who accept you, respect you and inspire you to become better.

These people will not be perfect but they should inspire you in one way or another. Every person is different and has flaws. Learn to accept them if both of you help each other grow and are compatible with each other.

Raising your relationship standards also means connecting with each other by giving your full attention, love, and effort. It involves making sacrifices, caring for other’s needs, making others feel loved, and not taking others for granted.

Self-discipline

You raise your standards every time when you —ignore the lizard brain, say no to distractions, delay gratification or choose voluntary discomfort.

Daily small choices set the foundation for your standards. Stop reacting to temptations. The urge to open social media, check notification, eat unhealthy foods, skip workouts, buy unnecessary stuff, dwell on the past, or waste time will always be there. It is your duty to recognize them and kill them before they kill you.

Temptations are immature. They seek the momentary pleasure and disregard the future. You don’t have to act on your urges. Making right decisions in the face of strong urges is the sign of true wisdom.

When you’re faced with urges, acknowledge them and do the right thing anyway. You will feel proud and your self-confidence will become unshakable.

You don’t have to give up all the pleasures in life. You can enjoy pleasurable experiences in moderation. Find a healthy balance for yourself but don’t indulge beyond your allowance.

Mindset

Your thoughts determine your actions. If you want to put quality thoughts in your mind, you must craft your environment in a way that most thoughts in your mind are useful or helpful.

Destructive thought patterns lead to depression, worry or anxiety. Your internal self-talk is the way to speak with your subconscious. Make sure you talk to yourself from a higher perspective.

Become your own life coach. Use the power of self-affirmation to feel powerful and inspired to become great.

What beliefs do you hold for yourself?

Most people never recognize what they are capable of because they think too small and lack self-efficacy.

If you raise the standard of your mindset, you will not be shattered by the failures or setbacks. You will see obstacles as an opportunity to learn and grow. You will get inspired instead of getting jealous. You will participate in healthy competition instead of comparing yourself with others.


“What changes people is when their shoulds become musts.” — Tony Robbins

Identify where your standards are lacking and commit to raising the bar. Think about the cost and consequences of not raising your standards. Change your limiting beliefs and take action to silence self-doubt.

Raising your standards is not about being an egomaniac. It’s about having a healthy level of self-respect.

Take inspiration from mentors or the best work in your field and add your own touch to create the best work you can at the moment. Your work will only improve if you set a high expectation for yourself. This, however, should not stop you from shipping your craft because quantity brings quality.

Sometimes, you will find that your current standards are lower than the standards you wish to have. That’s okay as long as you recognize the gap and work to make the gap shorter.

Run your own race and continually create, learn, reflect and improve. Eliminate all the excuses. Take full responsibility for your life.

You know you’re on the path of growth when you’re working to raise your future standards and when your present standards are higher than your past standards.

“Let your actions prove that you’re committed to living life on a new level. Get rid of the people and thoughts that confine you to an average existence. Raise your standards and aim for greatness.” — Tony Robbins

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