Life Out Of Balance? Here’s What You Need To Create An Epic Life.

I used to play all the time.

In fact, I was addicted to playing. All I thought and talked about was about playing.

Before video games entered my life, I was only drawn to outdoor and indoor games.

When I started playing video games, nothing was better than the feeling of make-believe and adventure.

I was hooked.

So much so that I could not study during my school time. At school, I would talk about video games with my friends. At home, I would play video games most of the time and when I tried to study, I could not focus because all I could think about was video games.

I did not realize how much addicted I was. It was not only destroying my academic life; it was also influencing my social life.

A few years later, when it was time for college, I enrolled in a game design course because games had become my passion.

As college started, I found the study of games fascinating. I could finally take an interest in the studies.

But as the study of games became my work, I stopped playing.

Then, I was hooked on learning.

Even when I played games, I played them to study them. I rarely played games for leisure.

All my focus was gaining as much knowledge as possible.

Later, I realized that learning and working are two different things. To convert knowledge into wisdom, learning has to be balanced with implementation.

Being a content consumer helped my life so much until I needed to take responsibility for my life. I had to practice skills instead of endlessly learning about them.

Then, there was a time in my life when I stopped playing and learning because I had too many items on my to-do list. I thought I was not ‘productive’ enough.

I’ve experienced extreme play, extreme learning, and extreme work. Like my past self, most people spend their lives in either of the three states.

Kids are given full freedom to play. Young people are told to study until they find a job and adults are supposed to work until retirement.

This system may have worked in the past but it’s not sustainable anymore.

Today, an average person is deprived of play, curiosity, and creativity.

Lack of play leads to stress and depression. Lack of curiosity leads to plateau and mediocrity. Lack of creativity leads to addictions and dissatisfaction.

If you’re reading this, chances are that you want more from life. You want to live a good life filled with growth and peace.

The Importance Of Play

“The opposite of play isn’t work. It’s depression.” — Jane McGonigal

Kids play with zero worries in mind.

As we become adults, play is replaced by work. You learn that you need to make money. You need to become successful. You need to take responsibilities.

All that is true. But, it does not mean the end of play.

Play is essential. Play brings fun to life. It eliminates negative thoughts, stress, and anxiety. It improves relationships. It keeps you young and creative.

So many adults these days are play deprived. They burn out because of workaholism. They don’t take time to rest their mind and recharge their soul.

We are only humans and we need spaces of unproductive times in our life. Staying ‘on’ all the time is a recipe for disaster. It leads to low willpower and motivation when we need it the most.

However, if you schedule spaces of unproductive or play time, you will come back disciplined and focused when you need it during the time of work. 

Life is not all about accomplishing big goals. Learn from children. They show us how being happy looks like.

So, take some time out and play for a while.

The Importance Of Learning

“Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.” — Mahatma Gandhi

The old times are gone.

Before, you could stick to one job without the fear of losing it if you kept doing average work.

Today, the world is changing at the fastest rate than ever before. The theory of evolution says that we need to adapt to the changes in order to survive.

So, you must stay up to date with the new tools and become a student over and over again.

Become a beginner and follow the pursuit of lifelong learning to excel at work and life.

Lifelong learning keeps your brain active and curious. It helps you to learn new skills or improve your current skillsets. It can take your personal and professional life to the next level.

Learning once, twice or thrice is not enough.

I don’t know about you but I don’t remember 95% of what was taught to me in school.

Learning happens when repetition happens. We can’t expect to see results if we keep consuming content without repeated practice or learning.

Our subconscious takes time before it can digest information.

Create short summaries or notes when you learn something and use them to revisit the main concepts. Also, you can consume the work of other people on the same topic to get new and fresh perspective.

The Importance Of (Creative) Work

“Your work is to discover your work, and then with all your heart, to give yourself to it.” — Buddha

If you want to make a living by doing something you love, you must become a creator. And if you love your work, it can be the source of fulfilment in life.

But if we don’t let creative habits be the source of dopamine production in our brains, we can become addicted to unhealthy habits.

It has become so easy to consume drugs, smoke, alcohol, junk food, porn, etc. It leads people to use addictions to produce dopamine in their brain whenever they want. And then, they need more of the same behavior to produce the same level of dopamine.

To escape the addiction cycle, learn to express and become a creator.

Creating and expressing are the best things you can do to serve your audience and your soul.

When you do creative work, you don’t need external motivation, apps or tactics to stay on track. You do the work because that’s your home.


Creating crappy content is easy. But masterpieces are the result of play, learning, and devoted work.

My best work comes out when there’s a balance between play, learning, and work in my life.

If I skip one of the three, my life falls out of balance. At the same time, I make sure I don’t overindulge in any of the three.

What’s one thing that is lagging in your life? Or are you overindulging?

I’m lacking some play in my life and I’m probably consuming more content than I need to create balance in my life.

What about you?

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What college grades taught me about money and passion

When I was in college, I worked on a lot of projects. Some of them were exciting while others were not so interesting for me.

Whenever I got amazing grades, it was because of my interest and enthusiasm for the project. I did the extra work not because I wanted good grades, but because I was genuinely passionate about the project.

When the project was not so interesting, the only reason I would work would be to get good grades. Even if I got decent grades in those projects, I did not feel satisfied.

The same principle applies when it comes to money.

You may earn money by doing a job you don’t care about but it won’t feed your soul.

What would you do if money were no issue?

Go. Do that.

But, what about the practicality of real life, you may ask?

Forget it. Do the work that you would do even if you were not getting paid for it.

If the work that you love doing is not making you money, then find a way to make money until you can make money by doing what you love. That’s what life design is about.

There two reasons why doing things we love eventually allows us to make money:

We do things out of love (not fear)

When we chase money, our focus shifts to the outcome of earning money. But when you do the work out of pure love and passion, it reflects in your work. One day or another, people are willing to pay for your work.

When your actions are completely aligned with your values and desires, you go all in. The love that you put in your work is felt by other people.

We figure out ways to fill in the gaps

Sometimes, we realize that we are not innately so good at doing what we like doing. You find other people’s work way better than yours. But that does not stop you.

If you truly love what you do, you will figure out ways to learn the skills or knowledge to do great work effortlessly. Your work will improve without you even realizing it.

You might be thinking…

“I don’t know what my passion is.”

Here’s the truth about passion. It’s not absolute. That means it’s not necessarily something that you find once in your life and be happy ever after.

Your passion will keep on evolving or it might even change as you change.

Your current passion is right in front of you. You do it almost every day or at the weekends. You must give yourself permission to identify it.

It does not even have to be a skill. It could be something you’re curious about so you keep researching about it.

Conclusion

No matter how hard you keep working, if you don’t like what you’re doing, you’ll do injustice to your work and your soul.

So, do yourself a favor and make time for the work that you love. You will experience inner peace and everything else will fall into place.

My number one priority in life as a 22-year-old.

On 23rd of June 2017, I turned 22 years old.

In the past 4 years, I’ve learned more things about life than rest of the 18 years of my life.

About 4 years ago, I stepped outside my house and started living in a hostel after enrolling in a college. I was away from my parents for the first time in my life.

I was free. I had full control of how I wanted to spend my time and who I wanted to surround myself with.

At first, I wanted to be cool college kid because I was shy at school. I had only a few close friends. I wanted to change my identity and become a famous guy whom everyone loved. Now that I look back, I was insecure. I wanted to be accepted by as many people as possible.

After 1 year of a hardcore trail and error, I was back to myself.

I eventually ended up with few close friends again. But I was happy. I formed great friendships with few people who inspired me in one way or another. For example, I learned to be carefree, have self-discipline, find humor and many other traits that I learned from different friends.

Most of all, I became friends with myself. I gave myself permission to be me. I started my journey to follow the path of personal growth and become a better version of myself.

I started following people on the internet who played the role of virtual mentors for me. I started reading self-help books, I started training my body. I learned the principles of living a life of purpose, growth, and fulfillment.

Soon enough, I was a different person. In essence, I was the same person but I was becoming a better version of myself every day.

As I got closer to my graduation, I started to think about career and wealth. By the end of 2016, I took a pledge to consume less and create more. I started learning about online business and bringing value to other people’s life.

Out of all the things that I learned in the past 4 years about health, wealth, business, relationships, and life; there is one thing that stood out the most. I’ve set my number priority in life based on that.

The number one priority of my life is not my goals. It’s not my career, not my business, it’s not even my freedom.

The number one priority of my life is the person who I am becoming.

At any given moment, I could lose anything. I could fail at reaching my goals, I could lose my arm, I could be robbed, I could go broke, I could be locked up in a prison, I could become sick, I could lose my strength and muscles that I’ve trained hard for.

One thing that no one can take away from me is the person that I have become. My values and my character traits will stay with me.

In the end, my values will determine my story and the quality of my life regardless of the life circumstances. I trust my ability to figure things out and make the best out of any situation.

8 things you need to know if you’re a college student

If you’re in college or if you’re soon going to enroll in a college, you’re at the right place at the right time. I’m soon going to graduate and I wish someone had told me the things that I’m going to tell you.

1. Detach yourself from your grades

At first, my level of happiness was directly proportional to my grades. From A+ to C, I’ve received all kinds of grades.

I’ve understood that 10, 5 or even 1 year from now, I will never care about any of my grades. They don’t mean anything in the realm of real life.

In fact, the time, effort and energy you will spend in trying to get an A from B can be used for more important things in life.

I’m not saying that you shouldn’t care about your career. But bare in mind that grades are not your career. The only things that you want to attach yourself are the skills and knowledge you gain. Follow your curiosity. Do what excites you and keep learning.

2. Focus on personal growth

You’ve been gifted with a mind and a body. It’s your responsibility to take care of it. No one else will do it for you.

College is the ultimate opportunity to develop life skills. For example, emotional intelligence, living a healthy lifestyle, clear thinking, stress management, time management, personal finance, leadership,  friendship and relationship skills are the skills that are far more important than your grades.

Personal growth is the path that will help you live a fulfilled life.

3. Dare to be different

For your own sake, stop looking for approval. College life is the stage when so many people fall into the trap of looking ‘cool’ and being accepted by others. They lose themselves and they have no idea who they want to be.

Once I took the 16 personality type quiz. The results said that my personality type was INFJ-A which is less than 1% of the population. I’m so glad to know that I’m unique.

Don’t be afraid of not doing something that majority of the people are doing.

Don’t be afraid of doing something that majority of the people are not doing.

We are social creatures and we all are looking to be part of a tribe. So, we look for people’s approval. While it’s normal to be part of a community, it doesn’t mean that you need everyone’s acceptance. You only need a few like minded people to be your friends.

Instead of making 1000 friends, make 2-5 close friends who have similar values or character traits as you. You could also have friends from different backgrounds. It will keep your mind open and you’ll be able to see things from different perspectives.

4. Know/find/create yourself

“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Self-awareness is a topic that deserves a separate post. So I’ll keep it short here.

It’s easy to get lost in the world that is filled with people who are already lost. Don’t exist and wait for death. Live until you have the opportunity to create yourself.

Define who you want to be and what you want in life. Your values and desires may change over time so keep moving towards them and change when you need to.

Embrace the change and the everlasting journey of self-awareness.

5. Plant seeds for future

“The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now.” – Chinese Proverb

95% of the college students don’t realize the value of their time. If you have a clear vision of what you want or who you want to be, then don’t waste a second. Work towards your future desires. You will thank yourself later in life.

The seeds can be in the form of learning, creating, practicing, etc. Develop 2 or 3 skills or knowledge about a topic. Then combine them and you will be better than 99% of the population on Earth.

6. Know the difference between job, career, and vocation

Jobs are roles that you take and you get paid to do that. Career is a series of jobs that lead to growth in your field.

Vocation, on the other hand, is a passion or a calling. But sadly due to stereotypes, society’s expectations, or our own excuses, most of us don’t pursue them.

It’s possible to have all three in one situation but for most of us, it takes some time and effort to reach there. If jobs can help you to eventually pursue your vocation then have patience and a clear vision of your vocation.

7. Fail, make mistakes and get rejected

Life is not always rainbows and sunshine. We all face adversity and there will be times when you’ll feel down. Practice the art of managing your emotions when you feel that way.

Failures and mistakes are not the opposite of success. They are part of success. As long as you keep learning and reflecting, you’re on the right track.

Rejection is also a phase that we need to practice. We need to realize that rejection is okay. It’s normal to feel bad after getting rejected, but don’t let it break your confidence.

Keep getting up and keep moving forward.

8. Stay present and enjoy

College is once in a lifetime experience. You don’t have as many responsibilities compared to an adult. Don’t stress out too much about your future. Stay in the present as you enjoy planting seeds for future and your personal growth journey.

Be grateful. Live fully. Laugh freely.